Why do i miss the narcissist so much?

Are you finding yourself missing that charming, alluring, and captivating narcissist in your life? Well, my friend, I’m sorry to break it to you, but you may just be under their spell. In this article, we will explore some possible reasons why you find yourself longing for the narcissistic abuser even after everything they put you through.

The Magnetic Charm of a Narcissist

Those who have experienced a relationship with a narcissist often describe them as mesmerizing. Despite all their negative attributes, there is something about them that can be incredibly appealing.

Maybe it’s because they are so confident – perhaps overly so – or maybe it’s because they seem like the life of the party? Either way, if someone has an over-abundance of confidence and/or charisma potential victims can easily become captivated.

The unfortunate reality is that these traits could also mask something far darker within the individual.

Beauty Is Only Skin Deep

Okay let’s admit it: physical beauty plays a part in everyone’s lives on one level or another. Whether we like it or not appearances affects our day-to-day happenings. It seems only natural then that individuals who possess high levels of charm tend to have attractive features too – am i right?

Beneath the handsome face though might lie some real problems… Maybe being “attractive fuels their sense of entitlement leading to feelings such as invincibility and lack of empathy . They’re likely able get away with stuff due solely to looks calming others into overlooking things; appearing harmless enough on surface.

Always Seeking Validation

If self-confidence is what makes people function well socially ,narcissists take this trait up several notches … bigger than Prince’s hat-wearing game! Not at ease unless constantly bolstered by validation from others , they typically go through life expecting constant admiration and appreciation – not always practical or rational. And if those needs aren’t fulfilled? The results could be disastrous leading to outbursts, mood swings, and even retaliatory behavior.

Of course this can become problematic for anyone that does manage to spend too much time obsessing about what others think on their own self-worth. It’s only natural that anything short of constant validation from your counterpart might lead you back into their waiting arms.

“Just Kidding”

Ever met someone who was always joking around but at times offended one person or another by being rude just passing it off as a joke? You were left feeling ‘What the hell do I get SO wrong”? Remember that behaviour is typical in a narcissist! ?

Consider when a narcissistic partner puts down her other half with jokes;‘You’re so bad at cooking”/ “Wow..nice outfit – where did you buy it ? Clown Boutique?”- hardly compliments right?

The truth is, these sorts of comments are designed with intentto passively insult people under the guise of joking , vulnerable persons take them seriously resulting in low self-esteem .

Emotional Blackmail

Open communication normally involves voicing emotional upset which should promote mutual understanding between individuals given things like relationship difficulties . This kind of honesty though isn’t exactly something easily achievable within abusive relationships since there’s rarely any sympathy shown towards victims’ emotions .

Conversely victims feel powerless , overwhelmed by guilt tripping phrases such as:-
“I wouldnt treat YOU like this if didn’t love you”,
“i hoped u’d see how much i’m Lovesooomuchin the way i treat uuu”

This subtle mental game play creates rifts and causes unresolvable emotional distress ensuring characters don’t leave abusers despite disapproving evidence

Infatuation Syndrome

Then comes infatuation syndrome–a condition whereby the victim becomes so obsessed about the narcissist and just can’t get enough – being addicted to that thing but aware it’s bad for them rolls eyes. Occasionally they may have distasteful moments of sadism or masochism while continuing down this road .

If you’ve ever found yourself making excuses for your partner’s behaviour, hoping there is an opportunity for growth in their character, then you might be stuck suffering from infatuation syndrome

Break The Narcissistic Spell

Breaking free of a toxic relationship with a narcissist isn’t easy. It could involve therapy (with no guarantee of results ), distancing from all contact with ex (harder than it seems) or maybe seeking out new relationships (and hope these ones are better).

Nonetheless at some point its possible to see directly undermining behaviors as i go into below:

  1. ;Many extroverted attention seekers aren’t normally selfless or compassionate
  2. Often lacking empathy
    3; Possessing a strong sense of entitlement.

Being able to recognize the negative aspects instead of concentrating on any positives will help break the hold they have over you

Final Thoughts

It is normal to experience feelings like loss and grief when ending any human relation regardless how toxic,it doesn’t mean regretting actions before-hand…so don’t chance anything,you’re not alone !

Narcissists also make sure their victims constantly question themselves because examining things clearly would push power back into victims’ hands clear wisedom even though soul sucking.

So next time someone ghosts pulled right back towards anyone claiming “i’m different” run btch R U.N!!

Good luck my readers!

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