Why am i so afraid of losing my best friend?

If there’s one thing that we can all agree on, it’s probably the fact that having a best friend is amazing. Having someone to rely on, confide in and share memorable moments with makes life so much more enjoyable. However, sometimes the thought of losing your best friend can be absolutely terrifying! But why? Fear not (pun intended), because we’re about to uncover some possible reasons for this common phenomenon.

Our innate need for connection

As social creatures, humans have an innate desire for connection and attachment with others. In fact, our survival as a species has depended heavily on forming relationships within communities over time. Therefore if something were to threaten these essential connections – like losing a best friend- our brains are wired to treat them as potential threats. This is why loss or absence of meaningful social ties often translates into anxiety or depression.

Your bestie takes up most parts of your life…

Best friends ARE life; they are usually present in most aspects from fun hangouts to personal conflicts and difficult times. They make us feel safe and comfortable enough not to worry about other things when we’re together which can lead us feeling directionless without their company.

The routines get messed up

When you do everything together regularly – weekend brunches, movie nights every Friday evenings/when they no longer reach out/keep commitment – this friendship comes with established patterns/routines/habits . And these little traditions might seem insignificant but once it’s disrupted through moving away/breakup/tension/%^$, it leaves space” where both parties don’t know what next.”

Their opinions hold weight

Your BFF definitely knows you at your core-from family troubles/money problems/school insecurities and vice versa,so they feel free giving honest feedback/comments when sought after–whether good or bad.”

No replacing a true friend

When they are gone, its pretty difficult to find a replacement ”-they get you in the way no one else does”. Finding someone who understands your humor/lifestyle/preferences as well as your bestie did might seem like an impossible task!

We all know breakups hurt

A best friendship breakup can be likened to a romantic relationship -minus the physical stuff of course-. The disappointment, rejection and loneliness that goes with two people drifting apart cannot be downplayed. Over time, we learn how important their place in our lives is and when bridges get burned-it can affect people differently

Breakup trauma is real

Research suggests that close friendships activate similar neural pathways in certain regions of the brain as romantic relationships do – explaining why friendships may involve intense feelings, loyalty tests and other aspects traditionally associated with dating.The pain experienced from losing these bonds could then translate into more or less severe symptoms such as depression/anxiety/difficulty regulating emotions.

Like attracts like, separation stings alone…

If you’ve found another person had so much in common with (interests/plans/experiences), it might have worked via fate but most likely because you were transmitting signals frequently(thought patterns/vibe/behavior) which matched up.Or perhaps solely based on proximity.- after all life itself tends to separate those we love even if everything seems alright.What happens when they leave? Not only do you feel lonely, but also regretful for not having maximized the moments spent together instead!

Letting yourself trust again

Regardless how bleak it appears now,great culture/values/friendship outlook/funny personality coupled with reliability/trustworthiness..equals strong chances that there would always BE someone waiting to fulfill demanding needs”.

Risk vulnerability-After a negative experience(a falling out or perceived betrayal) itsvital maintaining expectations(at least initially).Its okay providing ample communication overtime at their pace so they can prove themselves.

After all that effort was put in, it’d be a shame to let go…

All those fun times/silly jokes/secret confidences/personal events and discussions worth replaying sometimes in your head. They leave an indelible mark on our memory,it’s important not to underestimate their significance especially if the friendship ends.

As with any relationship, its safe taking time for self reflection:”Did I do anything wrong?” -”Is there still hope for reconciliation? ”- Leaving it up in the air might only feed into anxieties/fears/hurts but addressing them regardless helps remove doubt allowing better progress for happiness.

Getting unstuck

It’s okay to miss someone you used know without having it become such a weight on ones shoulders personally or affecting other meaningful relationships . Here are some suggestions:

1) Focus improving oneself
2) Apply(don’t just talk about/use them as motivation:forgiveness/gratitude/humility)
3) Engage socially through volunteering,making new friends or event attendance.
4) Seek support: not every solution lies within one person sometimes depending on issues like abuse/substance use/grief seeking professional help might be necessary.

Whatever reason we obsess over losing best friends ,they share similarities with romantic partners is less surprising than expected.They influence our moods/lifestyle/goals leading us bonding often more intensely than familial ties.Therefore when two paths part,it inevitably leads us grieving/beaten down,but also highlights how vital quality connections really are; which hopefully becomes motivation reaching out and embracing more!

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