When the one you love betrays you?

So, it happened. The one person you thought had your back went ahead and betrayed you. Betrayal stings like nobody’s business, especially when that someone special is involved. We’ve all been there, even Beyoncé. And when we do get to this point, we’re left stranded for a few moments or weeks trying to figure out what in Merlin’s beard just happened.

Betrayal comes in many forms: lying about something important (”I didn’t forget our anniversary”), cheating or stealing (our boyfriend hooked up with a chick from the gym). Whatever form it comes in, betrayal sucks and causes emotional turmoil for those affected by it.

But dear heartbroken reader fret not! In this article, we’ll be breaking down what to do when somebody has cast a spell of betrothal on your heart only to shatter it into pieces later.

Mourn and Vent

Close your bedroom door; grab some ice cream (or better yet alcoholic beverage), put on some sad music like Adele (you know she knows exactly how you feel) and cry yourself silly.

Sadness is an essential component of healing so embrace those tears (let them flow boo)-and hey maybe let out multiple ugly cries while at it too because after all pretty cries leave puffy eyes but God forbid any other man see us flawing right?

Some may argue why allow people who hurt us make us cry versus making them pay Instead- but if shedding tears was so simple as just choosing not then perhaps Kleenex would go bankrupt faster than Kodak did after digital cameras gained popularity .

Definitely tell trusted friends or family members how much that betrayal broke your soul It could be helpful hearing their perspectives on where things might have gone wrong So vent if needed don’t hold back though also avoid platonic descriptions such as ”he messed with my feelings” it was more than that so acknowledge the gravity of what you’re going through.

Forgive Yourself

Yep, you are not to blame for your partner’s betrayal. Remember this – unless we’re talking about Chinese water torture quite often people make choices based on what they feel is best for them, but no choice should ever infringe upon someone else’s well-being.

We all have faults and weaknesses; hence give yourself permission to be human since even Hercules had moments where his strength didn’t stand the test of opponent You can look within and try understanding their motivation without placing unnecessary shame or guilt on yourself because ultimately only protagonist (center of control) who made a decision which impacted your situation is capable of owning their actions and apologizing – if they choose to do so.

Cut Off All Contact

That ex will likely come at you with apologies making promises in attempts luring you back to familiar places from before the disaster struck-sometimes resembling dialogue straight out of Shakespeare himself-complete with sonnets .

It may seem like there’s still hope burning bright enough in him/her/they which could rekindle feelings last thought burned-out but consider this: CUT OFF TIES!

Stop texting/calling them-block if possible don’t follow them across social media platforms just distance yourself/selves altogether Their absence grants bigger picture clarity that will help rebuild self-esteem & move forward instead building illusions marked’just one more chance ‘.’fate works in mysterious ways’ pfft give me a break!

They betrayed our trust once chances might not be worth taking especially when we’d rather bet our savings some hundreds over odds somebody besides us holds jackpot winning ticket As fun as exploring possibilities could sound circumstances override potentials It’s okay admit when enough has been unduly tolerated.

Focus On What Makes You Laugh Louder Than Front Seat Of A Dave Chappelle Show

Now use three pliers grab your largest jar of pickles open up your Netflix account and blast a comedy show!

This sounds simple as you may already have things in mind that make you laugh out so loud everyone around gets concerned but focus on them What was making us cackle before we found ourselves in aforementioned situation?

Do more of those things reconnect to our sense of humor because it quite often acts as mender which make everything seem better even if they don’t necessarily change the underlying reality-but we’d be okay either way

Seek Professional Help If Wounds Persist

Sometimes a betrayal will lead individuals into spiraling from emotions, some get stuck replaying the events or circumstances over and over, obsessing about what then could have happened to now.

If after taking steps mentioned above or any other healthy ways still falling apart, talking with professionals especially trained therapists or counselors would certainly come handy Better safe than sorry. And who knows maybe getting assistance meritorious -there’s always another perspective.

Betrayal is like stepping unsuspectingly onto chewing gum along busy pedestrian walkway –-you’ve no idea whom step ahead got their bubble burst But just keep moving forward by :

• Mourning/letting it all out

• Forgiving yourself

• Cut off contact

& finally laughing via finding light-side life. It’s important acknowledging feelings rather than suppress whilst doing so though sucky also remember ‘this too shall pass.’

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