When the man you love hurts you?

So, you’ve found your prince charming? That’s amazing! But what happens when he hurts you in unimaginable ways? How do you deal with the hurt and betrayal of someone who was supposed to love and cherish you forever?
Don’t worry; we got your back! In this article, we’ll give you plenty of pointers on how to cope with a broken heart even if it feels like the end of the world.

Acknowledge Your Pain

It might seem obvious, but admitting that you’re hurting is a crucial step towards moving forward. Ignoring your feelings will only make things worse in the long run. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up. Whether it’s anger, sadness or disappointment- they are all valid reactions.

Put Yourself First

Partnerships should never be one-sided affairs. We all deserve love and mutual respect from our significant others – periodt! If you find yourself constantly making excuses for his behavior or placing his needs above yours girl throw him out like last night’s takeout.

x Solving Methods Yaÿ/Naÿ (Impact)
1 CALL HIMOUT ON HIS B.S. YAŸ (High)
2 SPEND MORE TIME ALONE TO SELF REFLECT       NAŸ (Low)
3 LOOK AFTER YOURSELF FIRST AND FOREMOST         YAŸ (High)

Venting Is Okay

Keeping everything bottled up inside can lead to unhealthy stress levels. Call up a friend or family member: tell them all about what happened lately during rush hour traffic without explaining inside jokes so they can cover their ears at every stoplight because laughter is not legal while driving 😉 They say there’s strength in numbers… have some support!

Take Time To Heal

Healing is a journey, and it takes time as cliche’́d as that sounds. Give yourself space to work through your emotions before jumping into another relationship – the new guy will not fix anything.

Accept That It Wasn’t Your Fault

It’s difficult when someone you love hurts you, but accepting that the actions of others are out of our control might lessen the burden both on you and him because let’s face it: we can be preeettyyy crazy sometimes too!

Seek Professional Support

If negative thoughts or feelings start interfering with your daily life, consider reaching out to professionals – e.g psychologists. Sometimes talking with credentialed experts who have seen similar pains is very helpful.

x Expert Help Yaÿ/Naÿ (Impact)
1 THERAPY         YAŸ (High)
2 COUNSELLING         NAŸ (Low)
3 GET A DOCTOR TO PRESCRIBE MARIJUANA         DEPENDS ON STATE/COUNTRY

Just kidding about the last one. But seriously don’t self-medicate.

Don’t Rush Into Forgiveness

Forgiving someone requires emotional readiness from BOTH parties; it shouldn’t be forced just for peaceful convenience- don’t victimize the situation by making yourself forgive until YOU’RE okay.

Understand Why He Hurt You

Sometimes understanding where his hurtful behavior stems from allows us a more sensible approach to moving forward while other times figuring what he didn’t do leads us down pathways to closure.

x Understanding His Actions Yay/Nay?
1. CONFRONT HIM AND LET HIM EXPLAIN -COMMUNICATION IS KEY                  YAŸ (High)
2. OBSERVE HIS BEHAVIOR AND DRAW YOUR OWN CONCLUSION         NAY (Moderate)

Cut Ties If You Must

If you’re unable to repair the damages done, and staying with him is more hurtful than helpful. It’s okay to leave; doing what’s best for YOU never makes you selfish or immature.

x Cutting Ties Methods Yes/No
1. BLOCK ON ALL SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS                  YES
2. DELETE PHONE NUMBER                  NO

We suggest block/unfollow him— deleting does nothing but make it worse on cue “two steps forward one step back” whether scrolling while bored/pissed — it just ain’t worth it girl!

Find A Positive Outlet

It’s natural that during this time, your mind will be preoccupied with negative thoughts constantly. But channelling all those emotions into something creative- like starting a new hobby or workout routine will do wonders to avoid fixating on negative behavior.

x Example of Outlets
1. GYM MEMBERSHIP  
2. LEARNING A NEW CRAFT
3. “TO DO LIST” THAT REFLECT’S ON SELF IMPROVEMENT

Taking control in areas that were previously ignored actually helps self reflect on toxic relationships ultimately enriching future partnerships once learnt from past mistakes—speaking of which we put together some tips below, so scroll down!

Lessons To Learn From This Experience

There must always be room for learning and growth- especially after tough experiences such as harmful breakups; here are some takeaways:

  • Know Your Worth – when someone mistreats us beyond repair cut ties because who wants leftovers?

    Don’t lower your expectations to meet their standards; raise the bar, you deserve it!

  • Communication – if someone pushes one of your boundaries then be vocal! Healthy relationships thrive off constructive disagreements and communication.

  • Healing- take as much time as needed because going 30mph trying to escape from “emotionsville” will only crash later resulting in needless recovery time.

  • Be on The Lookout (Red Flags)- once bit shy twice bitten…curate situations that are healthy where values align; Don’t ignore warning signs hoping for a miracle(we’re guilty of that ourselves…but don’t listen to us).

Conclusion

Hurtful behavior is an unfortunate reality we cannot control. However, finding ways to handle such experiences can lead to better mental resilience and overall happiness. Remember self-love should always come first, and above all else – treat yourself with kindness during this difficult time.

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