When He Says He Needs You: Understanding Men’s Emotions

Let’s face it, understanding men’s emotions can be a bit of a head-scratcher. At times they are happy-go-lucky and at other times they seem so distant you’d think that somewhere along the line, someone swapped their soul for that of an iceberg. But truth be told, men have their own set of feelings and as partners or friends or family members, we ought to give them more credence.

So what happens when he says he needs you? Is it time to bolt before he clings on like a baby monkey or is this one of those moments where being supportive wins the day?

Understanding Men’s Emotional Language

First things first. The way in which men express themselves may appear cryptic but don’t throw your hands up in despair just yet! Sometimes these expressions are straightforward; clear as crystal while other times you’ll need x-ray vision because there is always more than meets the eye with guys.

Here are some examples:

  • “I feel sick”: Something probably isn’t sitting right – either physically OR emotionally!

  • “I miss my boys”: This typically means- ‘Yo babe let me hang with my buddies’.

In both situations if you’re thinking about running around gathering care packages for him or changing all his scheduled activities – I would say please stop now unless he specifically requests something else.

Decode His Actions

Actions speak louder than words most often so keep an eye out for signs that indicate whether your man really does require your attention at present. It could also be helpful to pay attention to how his actions make YOU feel especially because sometimes we mean well but end up crushing our partners dreams (or Netflix binge)

Here are just a few indicators:

1) Frequently checking in/ texting – If this goes on ad nauseam then perhaps it’s time sit down and talk through what they would like instead.

2) Unprompted acts of affection – if he’s given you the brush-off recently but suddenly wants to cuddle or have a make-out session in public, then this is usually indicative of something off-kilter. Be attentive enough to what’s going on and conversations will ensue.

3) Deliberately being secretive – although space is important, there are certain things that should never be kept hidden from your significant other especially if it causes rifts/ damage further down the line.

Create A Safe Space

Most men tend not seek help when times get tough even though at times it’s precisely what they need/want. Either due to societal stigmas as dictated by gender norms, biochemistry or practicality factors etc., The reasons may vary- so why don’t we do our bit as supportive partners/friends/siblings?

Creating a safe environment goes a long way in encouraging positive conversation & finding solutions together:

  1. Listen; Actually be present physically and mentally while holding space for him

  2. Empathy: Put yourself in his shoes & imagine how he feels-Without judging him

  3. Stay Calm :no yelling/cursing/ fussing - alternatively take calming breaths/be meditative

4)Suggest ways to alleviate stress/how you can help ease their burden whatever that might entail (offering suggestions without pressure).

Remember firstly guys rely on us just as much as we lean on them-at least most times 😉.

Help Your Man Cope

pampering sessions / charity events work no doubt – still applying equal ‘if not more’ attention towards providing emotional support/stability during rougher days also offers great relief…

I guarantee following these tips BELOW could potentially transform his moods including YOUR relationship!

  • Learn MORE about his triggers/relevant communication methods: Is your man shy? Maybe then discussing heavy topics at bus stops aren’t the norm, approach him in ways that don’t cause alarm.

  • Can he confide in you? Are you a safe space or his personal judge Judy?

If it’s the latter I can guarantee 9/10 times they’re not going to open up. Listening and understanding on such intimate levels is more than just being present- it’s about silencing anything besides connecting with YOUR man

An attentive ear goes miles further than rolling out grand gestures every now & again so please time your battles….=》save plenty of bacon!! 😜

Get Support Outside The Relationship

At times he may need professional assistance beyond what uss mortals can offer However mundane some circumstances may seem- clinical help reiterates confidence which hopefully will allow both of you move forward together at least… despite any obstacles encountered =]

Closing Thoughts:
So there we have it amigos! Understanding men isn’t impossible after all. There are universal traits like appreciation, safety and concern around asking for help that aren’t limited by gender labels And Everybody desires a listening heart regardless!

The next time he screams for HELP-discard negative preconceptions & patiently constructively evaluate things through communication even while resisting expectations/demands - each step requires emotional effort but is well worth it !👬💕

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