What to do when a 15 year relationship ends?

It’s the end of an era. After 15 long, painful and sometimes blissful years, your relationship has ended. You feel like you’ve been kicked in the gut by a kangaroo on steroids. Don’t worry, though – you’ll get through this. Here are some tips to help you navigate the treacherous waters of breakups.

Cry like there is no tomorrow

Oh yes, let those tears flow like Niagra Falls during typhoon season! Release all that bottled up emotion: The frustration, disappointment, anger or pain manifested over the years will have built that dam so high it’s about time it comes crashing down.

Make peace with yourself

Once you’re done weeping like a five-year-old who just lost their favourite toy call on your self-love reserves and reinforce them even more so many times until they become indestructible. In other words, affirm one thousand times “I love myself!” Until everyone within earshot complains of nausea stemming from uttering those words repeatedly for too long.

Acceptance & Moving On

Ah welcome to acceptance where things start looking better; Maybe not entirely yet but slowly easing into reality you accept what happened, and muster up strength (or courage) to move forward.Grab yourself by the collar (figuratively), look at yourself squarely in mirror(even squint if necessary) and repeat after me “moving forward” ;). Let’s keep going…

Toss Out Anything That Reminds You Of Them

Now that we have decisively annexed our former cherubs as outcasts; best thing now is getting rid of everything related/connected/reminding specifically /vaguely/jumbled/partially/half-assedly/backwash-ly to them.

Item Destination
Matching attire/couples accessories Burn it
Photos Store It
Personal Items (non-essential) Donate to charity

Finding A New Pass Time

Adaptation is the key trait of human beings. Find a new pass time – this will keep you preoccupied and engaged in something fulfilling.

Workout out / Joining a sport/new club

Don’t mind that popping sound from the sedentary couch whose inflexibility gets insulted when someone remotely more athletic than its host (gulp). Demolish those beer belly stereotypes by finding activities that utilize all those under utilized muscle groups.Join a gym, workout at home or join any sports team for regular activity.

Hopping On The Travel Trend

Life’s too short to have one plan! Go on trips, visit places you’ve always wanted to go; seize life boldly like Nollywood actors running away from vengeful spirits.

Flirting/TryingNew Things

After being in long-term relationships it’s easy for people to feel rusty attempting anything vaguely flirtatious,and trying out things they never before because of how much energy investment they needed prior.But after going through a break up; consider getting back into flirting mode,and who knows.If your instinct hasn’t nabbed ‘the one’,while wasting time fretting about getting traded like an unopened can then he/she has very little chance falling on your lap at home either…

Alternate Pick-up lines:
– Hey baby, did it hurt? When you fell off from heaven lasting more than three hours?
– Apart from looking good, what do you do professionally?

Irrespective of whether the breakup has left us with curtailed self esteem or feeling traumatised due to super negative circumstances we need tangible means/precautions/medicinal steps we must tryied,before bouncing back;

Wallowing in that Residual Negativity

Giving yourself permission to feel anything other than okay is key. Ruminating over every excruciating detail can get you overwhelmed talking till the cows come home – bovine-ly grazing far into the night and waking you up with their incessant mooing at daybreak.

Seek Out Professional Help

Not all problems,nor solutions,could be solved internally.Psychologists,therapists,guidance counselors could help tackle specifically what’s triggering your emotional saboteurs.Blunt research indicates roughly 1.5% of doctors answer calls on their weekends ; nevertheless call around may lead one a professional who would conceivably salvage resilience from any corrosive adversity.

That’s it folks,breakups are more stressors on an already stressed out world so let’s go easy on ourselves.If anybody has been feeding themselves life sustenance through caffeinated drinks or lucid dreams fallacies then try one of these integrants,sitting upright(in decent light)clears our head and makes us see better; -Balance things like how we balance lemon juice with sugar,hope this article gave you the required amount of light,hop (no skim!) until next time,don’t forget “moving forward”!

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