What is the biggest sign of weakness in a person?

We all have weaknesses. Some people are absolutely terrified of spiders while others can’t resist chocolate cake even though they know it’s not good for them. But there’s one type of weakness that really stands out – and that’s when someone lacks confidence.

The power pose

Do you remember that popular Ted Talk from 2012 about how striking a powerful pose makes us feel more confident? And do you also remember how we were all standing around, fists on hips or arms stretched wide like wild peacocks in order to give ourselves a boost before an important meeting or presentation? We felt ridiculous then and guess what, we look just as ridiculous now if we’re still doing it. The study has since been debunked but at least we had some fun with our pre-meeting rituals for a while.

Disregarding criticism

Personally, I think pretending not to care about what other people say (or write) about us is another big indicator of lack of confidence. Of course it hurts anyone’s feelings when they read something unflattering online or hear snarky comments whispered behind them while walking down the street but the ability to brush off any negatives publicly only shows that one cannot handle criticism constructively without feeling defensive later on.

  • Let ’em laugh; comedy is my thing
  • Critics don’t get me
  • Live laugh love …through insults …might work too?!

The truth will always hurt more than water cooler gossip ever could and if/when one begins saturating oneself with self-improvement tactics to avoid confronting brutally honest feedback over time might actually dampen themselves socially rather than grow simply by understanding better their own strengths warts-and-all included!

Attack vs Defend

Another disrespectful behavior stemming from low self-esteem is putting others down in order to lift yourself up instead of praising your OWN accomplishments. Sure, competing at everything is almost cultural but putting others down alone as a tactic to raise yourself diminishes not only trust but any true respect one has from teammates, colleagues and peers.

  • You always have it easy!
  • It’s just first place in the losers bracket.
  • I’ll one-up you: does last place even get awarded?!

It takes considerable strength of character to recognize that every individual brings something unique to the table regardless of rank or accomplishment. This often seems easier said than done so let us give ourselves and those around us room to savor wins equally considering circumstance!

Over-apologizing

Overapologizing for stuff beyond our control or when we’ve done NOTHING wrong can be spotted from miles away! You know what I’m talking about; The apologies that start with holding someone else accountable for their own experience before claiming guilt as well are particularly insidious because they don’t even make any sense.

I constantly (and unnecessarily) apologize
Sorry I gave you back your pen
Sorry, May Ted Talk didn’t help
Sorry it took me three extra seconds before noticing my mistake …

Apologies carry weight! Oversaturating people with ’em means actually awarding them power over personal life – this doesn’t suggest greatness on anyone’s behalf including yours. Maintaining silences while working towards closure rids anxiety long term much more trustworthy than an unwarranted apology projecting passiveness instead of self-respectiveness.

  • Stop apologizing all the time
  • Sorry Donde esta el Baño?
  • Seriously though just calm down

Bonus: Do not add “just”s preceding apologies https://medium.com/communitybuilding/stop-using-the-word-just-it-doesnt-help-you-a-new-presentation-with-speaker-notes-bapeople-sm-believing-in-c4d299c2ba45 , quality straightforwardness will go faaaaar!!!

Standing up for yourself

Another important indicator of a person’s confidence is how they react when someone crosses their boundaries. Do they let it slide or do they stand up for themselves and enforce the expectations that make THEM feel comfortable.

  • Would you like me to explain it four more times?
  • I hear you’ve been spreading rumors about me …I just wanted to thank you personally; means I’m doing something right then.
  • Don’t engage, strengthen core beliefs instead

Taking care not only keeps us sane but helps relieve stress so hold yourself accountable for holding others accountable too! And don’t worry if someone goes ballistic after being called out by you. It only signifies projective insecurity on their part and doesn’t hinder your progress one bit!

Being open-minded

There’s essentially nothing better than owning our own conceptions as steadfast enough to commit our involvement towards community awareness rather than passively reacting negatively towards change arising from newpeople, concepts, wars etc. Working through all of this takes time but practicing embrace over rejection when we see unfamiliarity can go a long way!

  • Trying new foods especially Marmite!
  • Parenthood – totally chill
  • Monthly subscriptions… no explanation given

This could seem counter-intuitive considering building strong habits > taking leaps into unknown waters with stretched limits but such tendencies often result in surprising insights creative motivation underpinned by the feeling that anything is possible even in uncertain times!!

Bonus: Check out activities made easier these days https://www.netflixparty.com/ , collaborative playlists https://www.jqbx.fm/, group movies http://kast.gg/ plus many other digital platforms geared toward both escapism networking purposes contingent on individual interests.

It’s clear that people who lack confidence exhibit certain behaviors that set them apart from confident individuals. Engaging others confidently while petrified inside should be considered among most ironic methods of self-repression there is- it’s ok to feel overwhelmed, to take deep breaths and mull over the ways will overcome challenges such characteristics don’t simply render us weak or incapable. So, attack those imposter syndromes with vigor! Laugh about yourself but never lose sight of your own value lest you’ll get caught in the trivialities of others’ perceptions impeding personal growth a la mode de Parisiense https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27811234-how-to-be-parisian?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=7cbNxbzXEo&rank=1

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