Trapped in a Relationship but not in Love? Here’s What to Do!

Are you trapped in a relationship but feel like it’s going nowhere? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there! Sometimes love just ain’t enough. When you’re stuck in a situation where your heart isn’t into it anymore, it can be tough to figure out what the next steps should be.

But before you go off and break up with your significant other (because let’s face it, that’s probably what you’re thinking), take a moment and read this article. We’ve got some humorous advice on how to get through this difficult stage of life and come out even stronger on the other side.

The Struggle is Real

You never thought being single again would sound like music to your ears…until now. Every time ‘you know who’ sends an “I miss you” message or asks if they can come over for dinner, your body goes numb with dread instead of excitement.

What do I do when confronted by all these emotions simultaneously?!

Don’t panic just yet; there is always hope! But first, let me tell ya something: what goes around comes back around–and that includes staying too long with someone who doesn’t excite us anymore.

Recognize Your Feelings Before Making Any Decisions

It’s important to understand why are we feeling this way towards our partner – often times assumptions act as partisans between truth & understanding.

If that deep conversation about feelings hasn’t happened already…get ready because awkwardness will surely ensue during ‘the talk’.

(Awkward silence)

Now wasn’t that great?

Out With The Old & In With The New – Self-Love Baby!

Remember self-love?

Yeah me neither actually–but here’s what people say: when “we have lost ourselves”(i.e. our passion, hobbies & desires), the first step in getting out of a stagnant relationship is to reconnect with ourselves.

How can you give someone else love when you’re not giving it to yourself? Make time for your passions, take up a new hobby or treat yourself to a day at the spa. Few things feel better than freshening up after suppressing one’s personal identity for weeks on end.

Make The Decision: To Stay or Not To Stay, That Is The Question

So now what?

You’ve realized that maybe the puzzle pieces don’t fit so perfectly anymore…

It’s decision-making time! But let’s break it down…

Option 1: Give Them Another Chance

If this choice brings excitement/ anticipation back into your life–movin’ back into reality could be THE OPTION!

But wait just a second there cowboy! Before hopping right back in and potentially regretting messing everything up from option #2…let me ask: Has anything significant changed since making this decision last time?

Option 2: Say Goodbye (For Real This Time)

Sometimes we know where our heart lies literally, before even wrapping our head around it entirely.

Don’t freak out if breaking off relationships ends up being tough–sometimes difficult choices lead to refreshing outcomes.

Regret Checks

Now here’s something most people never talk about:
post-breakup Regrets checks!

“When I start feeling unsure about my current breakup perspective I find myself reflecting on THESE feelings” –regretful ex-lover from Reddit post.

Here are three questions you should ask yourself:

  1. Am I afraid to be alone?
  2. Did my partner bring VALUE & JOY within this game of life?
  3. Are there options other than betrayal for ways that his/her actions hurted me?

Answering these thought-provoking questions honestly will DEFINITELY help clarify things a lil’ bit more!

Support System

It can be great to have people who are “on your side”. You may feel like you’re stuck in this on your own, but there’s always someone out there that will listen and support you.

Friends & Family offer the platform we need to get off our chest what’s been brewing deep down inside for weeks or EVEN MONTHS–shedding some light on corners of the situation we’re too scared/angry/picky about seeing.

The Blame Game – Stop This Nonsense!

Let’s face it…personal growth? Not meant for everyone!

We know picking at flaws is quite addictive, causing us-folks keep blowing up smaller items into non-negotiables during a conflicts (we were all thinking it).

Stop right now– no one wins when love becomes war!!!

Blaming each other only gets toxic rather quickly. Moving forward without carrying resentments helps end past relationships healthily (not making Tyler Durden proud today).

Have Some Damn Respect For One Another- It Goes A Long Way

Knowing how important respect within any relationship—romantic or not–

then let me ask ya ‘somethin: (cue tone shift) Do you really wish for silly squabbles to turn derogative/hurtful fast?

Absolutely not!

Try taking a respectful approach towards moving 4ward from stagnant relationships.
Respect is earned, even if so-easily forgotten

(There see Timmy boy gotta listen instead shouting over peoples convictions)

#### Respectless Approach #### Respect Hints
“I can’t stand being around them anymore”
“You won’t ever understand” Ask open-ended questions.
“Why aren’t they home yet???” Acknowledge their perspective too.

Closure

Sure…it’s definitely preferable to get closure in any relationship, but this isn’t always possible nor healthy.

Breaking up with our significant other doesn’t necessarily NEED a formal meeting discussing previous high’lights that once made us crush-hard.

Sometimes it’s easier (and healthier) to reflect internally and privately before moving on.

Emotional Investment: Invest in People Who Invest In You!

It sounds like a no-brainer, but sometimes we forget the importance of emotional investment.
Consider who brings joy/value into your life outside past/present significant others.

Value them–appreciation never hurt anyone!

Conclusion

At the end of the day only two things matter:

  • if ya dislike someone enough
  • and more importantly, what can be done for healing ourselves out of stagnancy!

Respectful dialogues are key towards helping just about all relationships succeed…but don’t compromise self-worth at any cost Whether you choose option 1 or option 2 — know that growth is on the horizon whether now or later down down.

Good luck my dear friend –may you remember valuing yourself &”you attract what you think makes sense”.

—– Do SOMETHING everyday that your future self will thank YOU for – AGAINST STAGNANCY

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