The Liberated Lover: Find Your Opposite of Clingy

Are you the kind of person that needs more space than a NASA astronaut? Do you find yourself cringing at the thought of having someone hang off you like a koala bear for hours on end? Well, my friend, it sounds like you’re in desperate need of liberating yourself from clinginess. And let me tell you, being liberated is radically better than feeling trapped.

Kicking Things Off with Some Self-Reflection

Before we dive into how to become less clingy or find your opposite who’s not needy as hell (which is essentially synonymous with ‘clingy’), let’s spend some time figuring out what might be causing the cling factor in the first place. To do this, I’ve put together a few questions under each bullet point that will jog any insights loose:

1. Fear and Insecurity

  • When was the last time someone told you they appreciated something specific about you?
  • How often do people acknowledge when they’re wrong or hurt your feelings so things can be cleared up?
  • Have past significant others ever left abruptly without much explanation?

2. Childhood Trauma

  • Was there anyone close to you who passed away during your childhood and remained unresolved?
  • Did caregivers have an unpredictable temper/behavior which made trust difficult during emotional moments?
  • Were emotions viewed negatively/given little attention?

3. Biological Factors

This section exists because sometimes folks are just wired this way due to genetics; however since I’m no expert on neuroscience and don’t want to make grandiose statements here’s one bullet point plus its follow-up question:
– Mood disorders run strongly through their family tree: What unique challenges come with dealing these tendencies yourself in comparison to other mental health complications?

Alright now—grab part three below while we discuss what being opposite-of-clingy means.

What Does Opposite-of-Clingy Even MEAN?

I know this may be shocking, but the opposite of clingy is someone who needs a similar degree of space as you do. Ahhhh that’s better. Can you see the light at the end of tunnel yet? Maybe not, but you’re getting warmer!

The core difference between an anti-clingster and their sticky friend is self-awareness—and heaping handfuls worth to boot! We want someone who’s down-to-earth enough to understand themselves fully in order to embrace others without over-dominating any given situation; yes or YES.

Let’s dig even deeper, shall we?

1. Bonafide Confidence

Someone who has a handle on how great they are—without boasting—is going give room for others to appreciate them too. They should bring equally robust table talk while also devoting undivided attention when it matters most: your real conversations about expectations regarding dating 😉

2.Thoughtful Planning

When I mention ‘planning,’ I don’t necessarily mean dates out for every night (in fact let’s avoid doing so…), more like bursts of thoughtful energy scattered throughout WEEKS where it becomes evident their time with loved ones matter proportionally compared to other endeavors in their life

We all have our moments when we just can’t unglue ourselves from someone else—especially if we’re feeling vulnerable post-breakup or quarantined alone for days on end 😉 This is normal though straining no less annoying/anxiety-ridden completely avoiding conversations based around what bothers us isn’t something one wants indefinitely….

To help alleviate those pressures, here are some tested tips which have been tried-and-tested by yours truly:

1.Spend Time With Non-Romantic Friends More Often:

A little distance can go a long way especially once communicating with secondary (or even less intimate) friends can be fruitful and rewarding in itself. Endless “where are you?” texts might still pop up, but keep those boundaries clear!

2.Exercise Daily:

Endorphins have a nasty reputation…for making us happy! In all seriousness though, regular exercise is proven to help regulate cortisol levels (a stress hormone) thus managing any building-up overly-inflammatory emotions

3.Learn to Spot Toxic People FAST:

Someone who incessantly calls or sends three follow-up messages after not waiting long enough before getting upset—run in the opposite direction Captain!

4.Meditate Regularly:

Not only does meditation bring calmness when things become difficult within personal relationships/happen next with everyday monotony it enables improved attention span bettering ability of oneself to stay present.

So what do we do about this non-clingy attribute? How can we relate that to finding actual TRUE love? Here’s your simple answer folks—it’s integration through progression which becomes an unexpected yet precious process over time.

Take the time necessary for understanding exactly who another person is as well as everything they have going on outside of spending quality moments together whether through gentle questions or planned prodding no obstacles will exist down the line(providing trust and mutual respect remains intact lads!).

You may never fully know technically who someone really IS, but taking risks proves less risky alongside open-minded people seeking growth shared between two individuals(Chirp-Chirp-Ka-CHING 😉).

Final Thoughts

Being clingy isn’t something that just stops overnight, and there’s no magic solution or one-stop cure. It requires intention, discipline perseverence.^ This isn’t typically something I’d say unless feeling sassy (?) but here goes…If unwilling to take control towards overcoming cling-dome than don’t expect picking-a-rose-mystery-lawn-surprise after coming home from work Thursday. However if embraced, the road to becoming an opposite-of-clingy epic specimen (or finding such a creature) will take your love life to places you never thought imaginable!

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