Over the Top Togetherness: When Spending Too Much Time Together Crosses the Line

It’s great to spend time with someone you love, but there’s a point where spending too much time together can be detrimental to your relationship. There are so many ways that we can connect with our loved ones, and it’s essential to find healthy boundaries that work for both of us. So, let’s dive into what happens when we cross the line into over-the-top togetherness.

What is Over The Top Togetherness?

Over-the-top (OTT) togetherness is when you and your partner spends an unhealthy amount of time together. It occurs when one or both partners start neglecting their responsibilities because they want to be around each other every moment possible. You might have even heard stories about people who give up their jobs just so they could move in with their significant others! While this sounds like something out of a fairy tale, in reality, it often results in feelings of suffocation, frustration or disappointment.

Signs That You Might Be Experiencing OTT

  • Losing enthusiasm for things which once excited somebody except being with each other
  • Decreased productivity at work due to lack of focus as thoughts revolve around partner
  • Neglecting commitments such as schoolwork or social obligations simply because staying close instead becomes priority
  • Budget changes like eating out more frequently than ever before.

Dictionaries Would Say “To Be Smothered”

Have you been feeling smothered lately? Or perhaps overwhelmed by your partner’s attention? Both ‘smothered’ and ‘overwhelmed’ mean having too much input/output from another person; however, these terms carry different connotations:

  • ‘Smothered’: this feeling conjures images of someone holding another down forcibly against their will – ultimately choking them. Nobody likes being forced how what kind/how much time they should spend together
  • ‘Overwhelmed’: this word is more neutral and accepts that someone might not have the emotional capacity to sustain lengthy periods of intense interaction. The sound of typing can be overwhelming let alone being in a relationship.

Why Does Over The Top Togetherness Happen?

It would only happen when both partners do not possess healthy boundaries, leaving them susceptible to crossing into one another’s spaces. Sometimes it happens because one person has become “dependent” on the other, becoming co-dependent.

Causes Of Co-Dependence

One partner may:

  • Struggle with anxiety.
  • Be prone to depression-like symptoms where staying connected often helps overcome feelings arising from sadness or loneliness

How You Can Avoid It?

Here are some helpful tips for safeguarding your relationship against too much closeness-

Prioritise Your Schedules

Schedule time apart within each week without neglecting how regularly you meet; ensuring enough personal space is essential – regardless of whether residing right next door!

### Entertain Interests Individually

One must engage in hobbies/interests like working out, meeting friends/family members inviting greater diversity whilst lessening boredom risks which arise as seen when perceived stress increases over long periods

### Learn Again To Recharge By Yourself

Couples need recharging separately so they can come back fresh and excited about reconnecting again with each other mentally/physically/emotionally satisfied even practical tasks carrying vibes lifted!

Do not lose Identity! As alluring sharing interests/hobbies appears initially couples risk blurring individual identity which was earlier investment building blocks for strong relationships-now forget what that could feel like?

## What If Things Already Cross Personal Space Limits?

If things have already gone beyond regularity thresholds into unhealthy territory – below steps can ease transition-

  • Seek professional guidance from psychologists/counsellors trained in handling these situations adequately
  • Communicate! Share your feelings honestly: one cannot fall short communicating expectations/assertions while endeavouring to maintain an atmosphere of mutual respect/safety.

Conclusion

Over the top togetherness can be tempting, especially at the start of a relationship when everything is new and exciting – but it’s important to find healthy boundaries before problems arise. Dependency ultimately affects even simplest tasks or daily routine habits. Setting up “me time” from planning things separately or spending some days away will vastly improve relationships’ health that otherwise risks suffocating both partners if prevention measures are not taken in time.

Let’s learn how we can better ourselves for our loved ones without losing sight of who we truly are by using the above tips mentioned earlier. After all, warm cozy snuggles together ARE vital warmth, persistence/over-attachment may extinguish/alter those sparks making them feel overwhelming rather than affectionately familiar!

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