Obsessed: I Seriously Can’t Stop Thinking About You

Have you ever had a person on your mind 24/7? Do they consume your thoughts and leave you feeling helpless? If so, welcome to the club of obsessed individuals. Whether it’s a crush or an ex-lover, obsession is real and can feel impossible to shake off. But fear not, dear reader! This article will explore the psychology behind obsession so we can all stop being creepy stalkers.

The Science Behind It All

Obsession activates the same neural pathways that addiction does. So when you are compulsively thinking about someone, it’s like you’re addicted to them; their presence becomes something that is craved right down to our DNA just like donuts.

The repetition of certain thoughts forms patterns in our brain which become increasingly difficult for us to control with time. Researchers have discovered that this occurs due to repeated exposure increasing neural connections in regions associated with obsessiveness while also shrinking the size of other areas used for decision-making processes and self-control Gosh darn it neuroplasticity!

When we think about someone relentlessly, whether positive or negative, these neural pathways get stronger instead of fading away as desired – making it tough for us when we try intentionally forgetting them.

Take A Breath

Before you start drafting invitations begging your ex-crushes politely asking (more like demanding) an opportunity at another date/hangout session/life partner status update/etc., take a breath and step back into reality.

It’s crucial not only because trying too hard may lead those people further from us but more importantly doing such things borders on harassment since they never asked us if they could be thought about in such wild ways 😉.

Don’t misconceive my advice though – there’ s nothing wrong with hanging out with one’s crush again if done appropriately as friends without exaggerated presumptions.

Remember dear readers that there is a fine line between healthy infatuation and disturbing fixation if only our brains were better at getting such memos.

The Power Of Memories

Memories, like those initially activated when you first met your crush or ex-lover are powerful things. When we spend hours thinking about them, we reinforce the memory even further and increase its intensity, making it increasingly difficult for us to forget that person completely – this is also why people who have gone through extremely traumatic experiences cannot simply let go.

Imagining all kinds of scenarios builds up the anticipation making one desire to experience them in real life which can ultimately lead you down an unfulfilled path. It’s hard then since disconnecting from that deeply engraved trait associated with someone can mean losing some good memories along with the bad ones; but would trading off every other part of your life be worth it? Probably not!

Breaking Free From Obsession

The best way to break free from obsession is by removing excessive stimuli surrounding that person- eliminate triggers like reminders on social media platforms or photographs around your living space etc.

Another helpful tip is reassuring oneself regularly while replacing obsessive thoughts with positive self-assurances especially after having done something memorably embarrassing because of said crushes/ex-Lovers 🙂 . By being patient and proactive towards moving away from perpetual feelings of wanting their attention (which sometimes borders desperation too) without emphasizing on self-blame components in periodic setbacks will allow more room for growth regarding personal emotional well-being.

A wonderful approach would be observing how little influence these individuals had/have over previously irrelevant aspects in our lives before they entered hence creating remaining distance therefore preventing remorse if they never appear again.

Exercise Is Key

Exercise releases endorphins reducing stress levels promoting mental health generally helping take control over one’s thought patterns – so why not jump right into jogging just as easily as becoming smitten? Rather than trying to seduce your crush with your sweat inducing workout routine, use it for what’s important burning off those negative feelings and getting in shape.

Redefine Your Priorities

Reminding ourselves of our own goals and priorities are critical as they can help us get back on track. Let the obsession guide you towards analyzing who or what exactly gets prioritized more than oneself. When we consume ourselves with another person all too often, it can lead to unhealthy codependencies in which we cease to put our individual selves first which is never good.

The key takeaway from this section: Just because ‘they’ have no respect for your boundaries must not mean that you accept their attitude nonchalantly.

Take some space out as deemed necessary instead of asking them why they cut communications dismally just so that you know definitely where the limit stands.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness has been shown to be one of the most effective tools in reducing obsessive thoughts – focusing on bringing yourself into real-time awareness quickly interrupts these thought processes before they worsen into overwhelming cycles arising again.

It teaches you about detachment and helps reduce judgmental attitudes usually part within infatuations leading one feeling like a failure if unable to create opportunities for themselves within such circumstances; breathing exercises go hand-in-hand along with becoming mindful enabling complete control over any impulsive decisions or actions done thus strengthening emotional fortitude( The core concept behind mindfulness meditation).

Once someone feels powerfully confident perhaps after failing a few times because he/she now has greater self-awareness/realization acknowledging limitations + strengths calmly making more rational choices regarding his/her relationships would flow effortlessly without trepidation.

While obsessed behaviors may seem romantic (in movies only) – think Ross from Friends era 1995-2000 long live Ross 🙁 — exhibiting said mannerisms when left unchecked shows up disturbingly close-by Stalking Behaviors being unacceptable even though fancy hashtags such as #romanceGoals on Instagram can suggest otherwise!

So let’s break free from these unhealthy thought patterns and focus our energy onto healthier connections that ultimately lead to more fulfilling lives. Trust me, your crush/ex-lover won’t be the only thing you are missing out on if such obsessions persist – so give yourself a chance to grow beyond those all-consuming thoughts and embrace life!

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