Nice or Not Nice? When to Flip the Switch

Are you nice all the time? Have you ever thought about being not so nice? Well, fret no more my lovely reader because in this article, we will talk about when it’s appropriate to be not nice. So grab some popcorn and let’s get started!

Why is Being “Nice” Important?

Before we dive into the art of “not being nice”, it’s essential to understand why people are expected to be kind and courteous in certain situations.

Building Relationships

Being polite and friendly is a fundamental trait that helps people build relationships, both personal and professional. When you display warmth towards others, they feel valued and appreciate your presence.

Social Norms

“Society Expectations” – A phrase made popular by evil villains everywhere who want everyone to conform! But there’s a grain of truth here as well…

Society has set standards for acceptable behavior from individuals, known as social norms. These societal expectations include manners like saying please/thank-you or opening doors for others.

Personal Morals

Some individuals may have higher moral principles than society expects of them; This means that they could go above societal expectations with regards displaying kindness/humanity towards others.

It’s also important to note that behaving nicely does not mean giving up one’s individuality or sacrificing one’s beliefs if someone feels going along would violate his/her sense of integrity.

Now that we have established its importance let’s shift gears on when it might be okay just say forget being ‘nice’ (for short).

The Cut-Off Point: Reasons To Embrace Displeasure

Being angry or displeased with someone else isn’t particularly comfortable since humans naturally want those around them happy…right?
However,it gets exhausting constantly smiling away other individuals’ bad behaviors/attitudes.
At times these behaviors become sheer cruelty making empathy seem impossible(which totally doesn’t make us sociopaths, just bear with me) At such periods, it’s crucial to flip the switch from being nice to not-so-sweet. Below are a few instances where this could occur:

When Standing Up for Others

The world would be a better place if people had each other’s backs more often. A majority of folk dread confrontation and will avoid it at all costs or pretend they didn’t see anything(to them: Avoid reacting/speaking about what happened=Avoiding problem entirely).
To “NOT” allow one’s self remain silent or let poor treatment slide is imperative;It shows support & that bullying won’t be tolerated.If someone you know is getting mistreated, remember that a single voice can make an impact and sometimes silence might imply having chosen which side between good/bad.

Dealing with Boundaries

A big portion of society struggle with boundaries- setting out personal limits for others while respecting those of others too (e.g., agree on what acceptable topics to talk about in conversation). It is important to respect everyone else around as well as outlining your own comfort zone.
If someone constantly crosses over sensible restrictions despite efforts stopping/her/him/her repeatedly,it may become necessary cracking down severely (And no judging!).Present your reasons politely,firmly,and ensure thorough explanation.

It’s also important to note one should Include how violating set boundaries makes him/her feel(anger/annoyed etc.)as this helps convey emotional importance.

Nonetheless- if even after stern effort,someone persists crossing lines then kindness shouldn’t be thrown along further. As Mahatma Gandhi once said:”An eye for an eye leaves whole world blind”, so give ’em some daylight instead!(This might sound weird but trust me… sometimes apparently insignificant sunshine coming only from using harsher words does help people change gear)

Differentiating Appropriate Responses

So when do we decide not to be nice and when do we decide it’s better choosing the high road? Below are additional scenarios where making a distinction is essential:

Assessing Behaviors

Due to diversity in the world, behavioral responses differ on one-to-one basis.For example,a person being culturally insensitive- without intention -should receive approach different from that of someone deliberately wanting discomfort. It makes sense understanding what behavior incurs ‘not so sweet’ response,stopping any unnecessary upsets which could occur.

Understanding Individual Limits

Knowing what works for one’s self enables addressing external inputs better. For example;An introverted person has no problem fading away from large crowds while with an extroverted individual, this would likely constitute an issue requiring communication about feelings of overwhelming anxiety or anger.

Understanding limits aids in developing necessary coping techniques allowing everyone react more positively rather than lashing out unintentionally

The Delivery: What & How To Say “Not So Nice” Words

Now that there is clarity on WHEN you get unfriendly…WHAT then should come next?
The delivery of news occurs secondarily;It’s not just possible conveying messages directly/bluntly as sometimes how messages arrive often weighs same as message- implying difference between resolution & animosity.

Here are some tips on concluding between ‘brusque’ statements leading to further aggression and firm but empathetic ones :

  1. Choose words carefully whilst considering emotional perspective (that rely heavily upon tone/pitch).
  2. Indicate recognition of opposite parties’ opinion by use phrases conveying agreement e.g., I understand…
    3.Avoid relying excessively/inappropriately harsh tones/phrases.(Also don’t forget guys,’passive aggressive’ never works) .
    4.Despite circumstantial differences,it’s always advisable speaking assertively yet never shying off general politeness because yeah…violence stemming out from mere ‘unpleasantness’.

So dear reader,next time anger wants ruining good time,think about permanently flipping the switch to ‘not so pleasant’ mode. At least that way less chance of feeling pressure walking while grinning from ear-to-ear hiding fake emotions.Why continue being nice for too long when a middle point feels appropriate? Oh wow… am wondering what would happen if we all talked nicely tomorrow at work? And now, off I go!

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