Mastering the Art of Making Narcissists Chase You

Are you tired of constantly chasing after narcissistic individuals who never seem to reciprocate your efforts? Do you want to reverse roles and make them chase after you instead? Well, look no further as we provide some valuable tips on mastering the art of making narcissists chase you.

Understanding Narcissism: A Brief Overview

To successfully master the art, one must first understand what a narcissist is. Psychologists describe a narcissist as someone with an excessive sense of self-importance, intense focus on themselves and their needs, lack of empathy for others, and a constant need for admiration from other people (1).

Narcissists can be classified into two types – Grandiose or Overt Narcissism and Vulnerable or Covert Narcissism. The former tends to be aggressive in nature while the latter appears shy but still possess an inflated ego (2).

The trick to making anyone chase after you is having full confidence in oneself including personal strengths and abilities. Cultivate positive energy by focusing on growth areas that are commendable about yourself. Choose affirmations cautiously since they shape our mindset (3). One may also take up various mental exercises like journaling habits whereas sometimes just changing physical postures helps boost confidence mentally.

Tips To Build Self-confidence
– Read motivational books
– Surround yourself with supportive people whom brings progress along
– Set specific goals which drive your motivation

Tip 1: Reading Motivational books has been proven beneficial when it comes to enhancing personal development strategies [(4).]

Tip 2 : It’s essential to surround ourselves with positive yet constructive influences; those willing to encourage us towards our dreams rather than dragging us down unwillingly(make sure not becoming complacent thou).

Tip 3: Nothing beats the feeling of knowing what we want and how much time and effort is worth every penny. Set some Meaningful goals with achievable standards that fuel your inner-drive to reach them.

Narcissists don’t like being criticised, they also have a proclivity for attention, admiration, appreciation which feeds their ego. It’s important to know their likes and dislikes such as what draws them in or repels them so you can play up accordingly (5).

What Potentially Draws A Narcissist
– Affection Before Respect
– Flattery
– Power And Control

What Repels Them?

  1. Disrespect
  2. Criticism
  3. Rejection

Understanding the above-listed points helps you anticipate narcissists’ mindset/behavior towards any given scenario for instance if it was something un-ideal which gives leverage on safely handling subsequent actions tactfully.

The chase begins when there is a specific sense of value accorded to one by another/in this case; building NPD interest in oneself whilst maintaining boundaries between supply-demand factor from him/her.
Playing hard-to-get tickles their mind games against all odds given (6).

Ways On How To Play Hard-To-Get While Causing Remorse:

1.Be disciplined about response intervals while actively playing stoic(chill) – This builds anticipation.

2.Maintain Intermittent silence tactics while making plans together – Keep em guessing!

3.Infrequent showing off possessions and or spending too much money– Since TMI(Too Much Information) breeds disdain.

4.Talking less during meetups but adding small witty notes at crucial moments– Keeping conversation short & sweet!

5.Give ultimatums sometimes without explaining why these are necessary– Keep the Mysterious energy simmering!

Tip 5: Remember to maintain a healthy physical and emotional distance whilst playing hard-to-get,allowing yourself plenty of time cultivating personal achievements such as excelling in hobbies,it’ll prove beneficial in building self-esteem.

The narcissist is naturally drawn to people who mirror their archetype (7). Don’t get me wrong; this doesn’t mean imitation. Project body language that echoes theirs by- Laughter,situation,yawn,or any other habit they might possess yields greater results than mere copying phrases or other things.
Walking on eggshells while exercising empathy tends to solidify relationships with NPD individuals since it shows eagerness and willingness towards building further intimacy together (8).

Tips On practicing Mirroring:

Imitating Narcissistic Body Language And Phrases

Many studies suggest improved social ease from mirroring others gesture!
Some tips include:

1.Matching cadence of speech (Little pauses between words):

2.Imitate their expressions during conversations:
Try weaving elusive facial expression.
3.Borrow certain intonations:

tip 6: Be careful not only when using tone or phrases which may appear condescending or patronizing but walk-on thin ice cautiously too.

Mastering The Art Of Making Narcissists Chase You takes effort and patience—a perfect combination for multiple successes! Without dishing out precious attention unreasonably,one can swap the chase gear up keeping those cards close yet light enough to draw interest & curiosity commensurately high given adequate measures applied accordingly (9).

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