Is it love or attraction?

Ah, the age-old question. Are you in love or just attracted to them? Let’s be real, sometimes it’s hard to distinguish between the two. You may find yourself asking questions like “do I really love them” or “am I just physically drawn to them?” Fear not my friends, for today we will dive deep into this topic and give you some things to consider before taking that next step.

The Science behind Love & Attraction

Before we dig into the differences between love and attraction, let’s first understand what they are from a scientific standpoint.

Love is an intense feeling of affection towards someone else. This emotion triggers various parts of our brain that creates feelings of euphoria and happiness when experiencing actions associated with this person – thinking about them, being near them etc.

On the other hand, attraction has more to do with physical desire. It can stem from a variety of factors including looks, personality traits or simply because they make us feel good about ourselves!

Identifying What You’re Feeling

Knowing whether you’re feeling attraction or love isn’t always easy! Here are some signs that might help:

Signs That Point Towards Attraction

  • A purely sexual connection
  • Physical appearance plays a bigger role than anything else
  • ‘Butterflies’ only come around during certain interactions such as flirting
  • Doesn’t necessarily want any long term commitment beyond sexual relations

Signs That Point Towards Love

  • Thinking about their well-being
  • Feelings extend far beyond surface-level desires
  • Accepting imperfections and flaws
  • Seeing long-term potential with your significant other

Big Difference: Time Frame

Anyone who’s experienced both knows there is one huge takeaway separating these emotions: time frame. Contrasting attachment styles/actions for those merely attracted versus those truly in-love will hint at either progression toward deeper connections OR lack thereof.

Attachment Styles of Attraction

-Prone to the chase
-Don’t invest time in thinking about future
-Simple desires for flirtation and interaction without commitment
-Finding a new source of attraction if things cool off

Attachment Styles of Love

-Investment in long term goals, building friendship with partner
-More inclined towards talking through arguments rather than avoiding them
-Less likely to consider that “next best thing” when issues arise
-Knowing your partner’s flaws and still deciding they are worthy

The Emotional Aspect: Comparing, Contrasting, and Combining

It’s natural to compare/contrast these two emotions (obviously love wins – no debate there!). However combining the two creates deeper connections within a relationship – having physical chemistry only increases desirable emotions.

How Physical Chemistry Adds To Love & Attraction In A Healthy Relationship

With all that considered you may see potential for blending together aspects from both categories. One cannot deny how beneficial it is both sexually as well as beyond when partners desire each other on multiple levels. This creates motivating force behind productive conversation with partner regarding what can help put you in satisfied emotional states.
Love > just attraction , but reaching compromise between three emotional relationships is ideal!

Conclusion

In summation, while love an attractiveness might seem like interchangeable terms – actuality reveals stark differences . Knowing whether you’re feeling one or the other can improve relations with partners not only romantically-but also platonically . It’s natural to second guess where exactly our feelings come from sometimes; comprehending/embracing their individual definitions helps ensure we align personally before trying connecting on same page.

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