Is He a Player or Really Into Me? The Ultimate Question

Dating is an adventure that can take us down many paths. Sometimes the person you meet may be too good to be true, and it makes you wonder if they are really into you or just playing games (aren’t we all). How do you know when someone is interested in pursuing something more serious versus just fooling around with your emotions? Here are a few signs to help decipher whether that special someone is really into you or just being a player.

Pay Close Attention To His Actions

Talk is cheap, but actions speak louder than words. So pay close attention to how he behaves towards you (and others).

Consistency

Does he maintain steady contact with you throughout the day or week? Or does he disappear for days on end only to reappear like nothing happened?

Effort

Is he putting in effort into planning dates and conversations with meaningful topics rather than just hooking up?

Plans

If plans get disrupted, does he give an explanation as opposed to ignoring messages?

At last! A sign of decency

Keep Your Eyes Peeled For Red Flags

As much as we try not to assume the worst, sometimes red flags pop-up no matter how much we ignore them.

### Informal communication
Does most of his time spent speaking about sex-related topics (or sending suggestive images) rather than actual subject matters which build acquaintanceships?

You’re not feeling him yet right 👀?

### Incapability Of Introducing You To Friends & Family Members

If days become months and still has zero intentions of introducing family members/friends- then there’s trouble ahead sister!

Discover His Intentions Early On

Knowing what someone’s objectives are early on will save plenty headaches later down the line so ask!

Direct Questions

About What They Want Out Of Dating

With straight-up questions like “What are you looking for in dating?” or “Are you interested in finding someone serious?” it will be easier to spot what they’re really after (or not!)

About How He Feels

Too shy to ask? Try to read between the lines by taking notice of the tone and energy he has with you. Does he have a certain flair when referring to going out with you as opposed to seeing other women?

Look At His Dating History

A disaster victim may never see any red flags – but his (dating)history should serve as an eye-opener.

Frequency Of Short-term Relationships

If there’s a pattern, then most likely that alone would tell tale about him NOT wanting commitment.

No Long Term Relationship

Has your stud muffin only ever entertained flings? (These two words aren’t friends ) Terrible news I’m sure but- if over 30 and still no long term relationship…well…

  • Move on sister!

Gauge Physical Intimacy

Physical intimacy can play tricks; if sleeping together early, it doesn’t imply anything. However, how often as well as topics discussed during/after suggests plenty.

Conversations After Sex

Do these conversations relate more about sex ventures than actually getting acquainted with one another?

Walk away honey!

### Consistent Communication

If your every day is spent talking horizontally without any meaningful discussion: It indicates something is amiss frankly!

Something fishy.. hmmmm!!

### Refusal To Use Protective Measures

This is just common sense girlies

STDs and unplanned pregnancies waiting at the door.

## Be Smart Not Desperate
It’s easy also tempting (at times)not being practical due love-bug-train pulling us along.

Just keep few things in mind;

Don’t Try & Change Someone

There’s no changing someone’s behaviour or thinking style, trust me. It may hurt at first, yet initiating the breakup will save any future heartache.

Don’t Force Anything

Love can make people do crazy things – so be selfish enough to know when it isn’t working; walk away honeypie(..or go over a break-up day with girls)

Final Thoughts

In conclusion, deciding whether someone is playing games or interested in something serious depends on many factors. Watch their actions and pay close attention to red flags while also asking direct questions early on. Looking at dating history and assessing physical intimacy is recommended as well – but above all stay smart and don’t force anything. Remember that good things come to those who are patient(.& witty I must add)!

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