Is forgiveness an emotion?
Forgiveness is a complex concept that has puzzled the human race for centuries. It’s one of those things that we know when it happens, but struggle to articulate or explain. Some say forgiveness is not an emotion, while others argue it is. So what exactly is forgiveness, and can it be categorized as an emotion? Let’s dive in and find out.
The Definition of Forgiveness
Before we get into the nitty-gritty of whether forgiveness is an emotion or not, let’s first define what exactly forgiveness means. According to Oxford Languages, forgiveness refers to “the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven.” Hmm… that doesn’t seem particularly helpful. Let’s try again.
To forgive, you are essentially letting go of anger and resentment towards someone who has wronged you; you are extending mercy and compassion rather than seeking revenge or holding a grudge against them. At its core, forgiveness requires empathy – attempting to understand why someone did what they did rather than just focusing on how their actions affected us personally.
So far so good? Now let’s explore emotions’ role in all this.
What Are Emotions?
We all experience emotions at some time in our lives – happiness… sadness… anger… jealousy… anxiety (I could go on). But what exactly are emotions? Well, according to Psychology Today,emotions refer “to subjective feelings such as happiness or sadness,” which allows us humans to make sense of our experiences more easily by attaching some form
of emotional significance/meaning.
Emotions can range from having complex psychological functions such as preparing people for specific courses-of-action through fight-or-flight reflexes ((that’s right folks the primitive brain still works)) , unto almost mundane conditions like appetites indicating hunger levels (which I wish mine was lower considering how much pasta I eat) etcetera .
For example, if you watched your beloved doggo get hit by a car, chances are that sadness would overwhelm you. If someone made a rude comment about said dog being somewhat plain looking (WHO CARES – I love her just as much), or if we realized it was Saturday and the weekend is almost over which means program updates the mainframe for fifteen agonizing minutes upon clock-in every Monday ((insert face palm emoji here)), then emotions such as disappointment or frustration might come on but no one will fall apart from them.
It’s also worth noting that some people hold fast to emotion regulation (aka having self-control) quite well, while others wear their heart on-their-sleeves (emotions can be tiring af, folks).
Speaking of which, let’s see how forgiveness stacks up against these emotions
Is Forgiveness an Emotion?
Up until now we’ve talked about both forgiveness and emotions in isolation – but what happens when they collide? Well… things start to get complicated. Like trying to figure out if Ross from FRIENDS really deserved Rachel (“We were on a break!”), figuring whether forgiveness is an emotion opens up loads of philosophical debates; although compared to relationship gossip (‘goss’ for short) this topic has less material attention.
Some psychological perspectives define emotional responses with terms like valence (positive or negative) and arousal(in between bothered vs veeery bothered)(how intense the feeling coming through is) . In contrast ,Others use labels like joyousness or anger instead. The thought behind formulating this classification is essentially based on diagnosing/witnessing expressions from facial changes such smiling nor frowning which makes sense..
At first glance, it seems logical that forgiveness could be categorized as an emotion under these definitions: When we forgive someone, positive feelings flow in our organism coupled with behavioural arousal response enabling us commence trustworthy connection/trust-building whilst wearing down behavours of vengeance or retaliation instinct inside us. But there is a problematics to these claims
Debunking the Forgiveness-As-An-Emotion Argument
If forgiveness were solely an emotion like many argue,then it’d be easy for individuals in a outburst (regardless if one party should/does deserve such treatment) to feel sorry as though nothing unpleasant ever transpired. Yet, real life experiences show that this just isn’t the case – making the argument of forgiveness being single-handedly categorized as an emotion rather faulty.
For instance, when you hold someone’s hand and whisper those three magic words (“I forgive you”), chances are high that whatever happened between both parties which must have triggered certain emotions (A broken promise, Insults hurled, Roasting session. Plenty others! ) will still linger; even amid offer of mercy extended on part of initiator to culprit.
Forgiveness then becomes something more complex than just another feeling we’re expected to cope witha little bit of chicken soup for our souls In fact, it’s much more dynamic & adaptive: It requires change in dynamic behavior from person wronged against by understanding wider playing factors at play while also acknowledging prior emotional experience evoked will not simple cease altogether desipe past events /behaviour changing somehow.Now let’s look at some examples
Examples Of Genuine Forgiving but Emotions Still Linger On
Say your partner cheats on you (Ouchie). You decide after roller coaster for so long that despite their apology ,you want move forward with rebuilding trust process (which is no joke folks!!!) Even whilst extending literal singing telegram extendino appreciation how kind-hearted they are for not arguing back(clearly discombobulated),it doesn’t mean memories suddenly vanish nor a detox-cleanser effect cured all anger feelings overnight rather introspective work has just started This results to shifts in their behavior and more towards a principle-centered approach instead of ego-centred one. The possibility of forgiveness can only come after sitting with these emotions (many unpleasant I admit) and deciding what you want to do- not because feelings just faded into thin air like smoke sometimes into reality may happen
Another example: Say someone did something wrong to another party that resulted in disappointment for them. In an effort to forgive, the person who harboured negative emotions offers up kind words and doubles down on comprehension which enables objectivity if stuff comes up again future-wiseThis causes diminished lingering negativity but this act does not mean moving past said action makes it non-existent or reduced total closure while some unpalatable residue remains.
In both examples mentioned above, it’s clear that human emotion is essential/major component affecting whether one can offer genuine forgiveness; however for us at OpenAI(JK we don’t have preference over specific companies)far too many other factors come into play much further beyond emotional regulation alongside empathetic responses.
Final Thoughts
So there you have it folks – our thoughts regarding the question Is Forgiveness an Emotion? Based on dissection/examination thus far,it’s challenging/difficult to categorize forgiveness as solely an emotion since so many other playing fields factor deeply here.
Yet This notion isn’t necessarily negative!Sure, accepting forgiving as complex(heck yeah!!) allows embrace complexities of being human/wide varieties mixtures opposing viewpoints .it requires understanding
that emotinal experiences are important/ should/remain valid yet shouldn’t be singlehandedly dictating decisions.Since true authentic efforts results from attention placed evenly across mixed board
At least now we all know better when feeling angered by someone’s behaviour ,the perfect cure ain’t crying your eyes shut while eating a bucket full ice cream ((though watching youtube kids surfeit videos helps)) rather leaning more towards shifting behaviors coupled with factoring emotional responses ))
To forgive is divine, as the saying goes. But to understand it is human – and now I hope this brief analysis has added some insights readers can ruminate on .