Is divorce considered trauma?

The words “I do” are often associated with hope, love and happiness. In some cases though, the outcome of that promise falls short of what was expected. And so starts the long journey toward its dissolution which can be marked by heartbreaks, sleepless nights and stressful court battles over assets – this is called divorce.

Divorce is never a happy thing but when it comes to classifying divorce as trauma-a word most commonly associated with mental breakdowns caused by experiencing horrific events like wars- one has to ask if there’s actually any nexus between getting legally separated and experiences like lonely incarceration in enemy camps or concentration depots? Here’s offering you wine-filled insights into whether “divorce trauma” really stacks up:

Is Divorce Getting too much Credit?

We’ve all been guilty of blaming our inability to relate or behave constructively after separation from partners on “divorce trauma.” But how true is this label?

A Look at What Defines Trauma

Trauma refers to any experience that causes severe emotional pain whose effects persist for considerable periods post-experience. Think soul-shattering wartime horrors such as PTSD, not binge-watching “Friends” reruns while tucking into your favorite chocolate ice cream.

While going through divorce may fit the bill because painful emotions usually characterize court proceedings involving personal issues, it still rates low compared against traumatic life experiences such as loss of limbs, imprisonment among others.

Interestingly enough though; people who have suffered failed marriages generally agreed that they became more resilient and better suited for dating further down their lives (not me!). Far from being traumatized then!

On Learning New Vocabulary

Here are some terms you may come across:

  • Dissolution
  • Alimony
  • Child Support
  • Split Custody
  • Joint Custody

Avoiding a Crisis: Is Divorce Trauma Resolvable?

Many experiences share similarities with traumatic ones in terms of the horrible emotions you’re left with. Psychologists argue that going through divorce might have similar symptoms to PTSD such as depression, nightmares and anxiety.

While ways of resolving these stressful occurrences are critical, simply classifying everything under one term or another is hardly constructive.

Ways to ease yourself from the sting of ending a marriage could include therapy or finding other individuals who’ve experienced it before for support. More creative (and cheaper) options include…

Breakup Aids Worth Trying

  • Creating playlists full of “it’s all gonna be alright” music
  • Socializing-Parties & Picnics can offer an escape
  • Bonus if your ex was anti-partying!
  • Download kindle-friendly comic books on breakups.
  • Think Scott Pilgrim versus The World and Legally Blonde

Having fun after a separation ensures you’re strong enough not only to survive future relationships (because new crushes always happen) but also treats your mental exhaustion. So go out there and live!

Could It Be You?

Sometimes we like to attribute our post-divorce instability to big “D” trauma because acknowledging responsibility for faults can cause feelings of shame-the ultimate culprit! Except when we do so, we drag ourselves into purgatory which might last longer than healing naturally should allow. Curious about whether you’ve missed the warning signs leading up to feeling traumatized? Below are some signs that suggest coping issues:

Signs Checklist

  1. Loss/Lack Of Appetite
  2. Feeling Of Hopelessness
    3.Inexplicable anger

Noticing any one or more experiencing any above-mentioned occurrences may signify something larger going on requiring addressing by experts immediately. Don’t let old conversations linger too long-you deserve better!

For those who feel resilient though; even stronger persons exist beyond the pangs of separation. It’s only a matter of time before you find them.

Divorce And Your Kids: Trauma Or Experience?

Divorces with children are always more complicated because, unlike divorcing couples separating assets, minors are involved with emotions and feelings that can last into adulthood. Does experiencing divorce as a child qualify as emotional trauma though?

How Children Feel

Kids feel “love glue” holding their parents together so any substance threatening this attachment affects them profoundly (not like actual superglue) . When it does come to love disentangling- Children often react differently depending on age.

Displayed Reactions Chart

Kids’ Ages Possible Reaction
0 – 3 Years Separation anxiety
4 – 6 Years Extreme sadness or anger
7-11 Years Fear and guilt
12+ Full range of reactions including depression

While common sense dictates kids feel shaken by life-bending experiences such as divorce regardless of age-the effects aren’t always for worse! According to research data from Journal Of Child Psychology & Psychiatry, kids exposed to splitting families were older; demonstrated better adaptation skills than expected!

Therefore even if period after separations may be painful when done correctly healing is inevitable through mental readjustment post-divorce.

The Takeaway On Divorce Trauma?

Heart ache from ending relationships whether officially married or otherwise isn’t classified under traumatic life events but in some cases might mimic symptoms experienced alongside other traumas such as PTSD which could result in self-imposed stigmatization. Coping mechanisms like building new support structures (like friends) and finding new hobbies critical for fast recovery.

So let’s keep the champagne bottles popped (since fizzy drinks will also suffice)–you don’t need an unhealthy label hanging over you just because things didn’t work out the way they should have with your partner!

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