How to tell if someone is making up a story?

So, you’re having a conversation with someone and they are telling you a story that just doesn’t seem right. Maybe the details aren’t adding up or maybe it seems like they are trying too hard to convince you of something that just isn’t true. It can be frustrating when someone is making up a story but luckily there are some signs that can help you figure out if what they’re saying is actually true.

Watch for Contradictions

One of the easiest ways to tell if someone is making up a story is to listen for any contradictions in their tale. Does one part of their story contradict another? Do some details not match up? If so, then chances are that this person is lying through their teeth. For example, if your friend says she was at home sick all day and later talks about running errands during lunchtime, well… something smells fishy.

Body Language Can Be Telling

Body language is an incredible source of information, especially when it comes to identifying liars. People who lie will often fidget or avoid eye contact because they don’t feel comfortable with what’s coming out of their mouth. Liars may also clench their jaw or tighten facial muscles without realizing it – these actions show defensiveness & anxiety around being caught in deception.

Signs of Lying What They Mean
Shaking Head Signaling “no” even while speaking
Nervousness Often seen in tapping feet/fingers/arm movement
False Smile The face looks friendly while eyes do not match expression

Eyes Give It Away

The old adage goes ‘that eyes never lie’ and its no different here – by carefully studying someone’s eyes as they speak can reveal more clues than you think- as our pupils naturally dilate (open wider) when we see something positive or pleasant while they constrict (get smaller) under stress, fear, tension. Similarly in a liar’s case – if someone is lying and their heartbeat goes up which might lead to rapid blinking.

Listen Carefully

If you’re still not sure if someone is making up a story, listen carefully at how much detail they remember about the event they are narrating. If it’s an elaborate tale with timelines & detailed scenarios but hardly any essential points remain preserved

HOLD IT! On second thoughts…

It’s possible that you’re merely suffering from verbal diarrhea which could result in poorly articulated explanations- especially around complicated subjects like finance, medical issues etc where high level jargon can make things more difficult to accurately report.

Symptoms of Verbal Diarrhea Why it happens
Rambling Sentences Losing track of focus due to volume/intensity of information
Duplicate info Incessant redundancy because its confusing for them too
Talking without Breathing Most often done by people who feel nervous explanation considered important

In these cases, politely interjecting and asking them direct questions may just be enough clarity-seeking exercise!

Does It Add Up?

Another way to know if someone is making up a story involves scrutinizing the details – does everything being said add-up logically? Are there parts mentioned implying external factors outside their control that only the needle-in-the-haystack odds would ever allow large coincidences happening frequently?

“Once after my flight landed earlier than expected i happened upon Bryan Cranston at LAX simply enjoying life on his own” ; say what ?

Remember Occam’s Principal – The most likely answer is usually correct; So already experienced events should have predictable results rather than ways changing on dime.

At this point asked yourself – ‘what proof do I actually have until now?’ – This evidence based approach can help you decide whether the story being told is actually true!

Psychology 101

Now let’s delve a bit into some classic psychological reasons as to why people lie & more importantly how to spot if someone tends towards such personality traits

Types of Liars Characteristics
Narcissistic liar Gains happiness by feeling superior over others- often lies for ego boost
Compulsive Liar Thrives on constantly lying – loses track of real vs dreamt up scenarios
Delusional Liar Believes their own fantastical ideas, superpower-like abilities; cannot differentiate from reality

Look At Their Eyes…Again!

When trying to catch a Narcissist Couple pleaser / Approval seeker: eye contact becomes long-drawn attempts at physically ingraining themselves in your consciousness – this occurs as they require validation which helps keep up the facade.

Compulsively liars suffer from Internal turmoil – differentiating external truths apart verifiable facts proves challenging so most narratives will be littered with potential contradictions.

Delusional liars are both persistent and insistently damning other viewpoints while spreading mistruths through emotional bile. They avoid looking in eyes because they have trouble coming back down to earth once nestled too deep within conspiracy theories or its like.

So next time you’re questioning whether someone is making a tall tale, look at them more closely and ask yourself…does it all add up?

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