How to get over someone and be friends?

Ah, the classic conundrum of breaking up with someone but still wanting to be pals. It’s like trying to eat your cake and have it too – except instead of dessert, you’re dealing with emotions that are all over the place. Do you keep in touch? Will it hurt too much? Is it ever really possible? Don’t panic yet, my friend – let’s break this situation down with some helpful tips on how to get over someone and still stay friends.

Accepting Reality

First things first: if you want any shot at being buddies post-relationship, you need to accept that things are different now. You aren’t a couple anymore, no matter how much or little time has passed. Sad as it may be for one party, there is no going back (trust me). So mourn what was once there – feel sad about the breakup! Take some popcorn (or chocolate) (/ahem/) beer (wink wink), put on some Adele songs and just embrace those feelings!

Time Heals Almost All Wounds

You know when people tell you “time heals all wounds”, but then that knowledge doesn’t make any difference in terms of feeling better right now? Yeah…that phrase sucks sometimes. But even though I sound like an ancient grandparent who spouts meaningless platitudes like wisdom from their rocking chair– freaking listen…because later down the line sooner than you think..this advice will seem more profound overtime (even though deep down you might believe they didn’t know shit) Okay enough chit-chat moving on..

Whether we like it or not , time is essential when getting over someone while keeping them as pals (especially if Bitterness was involved at any point) To acheive something close to friendship-Land again between Rick & Michonne / Sheldon Cooper & Penny .. then both sides probably need some space to process their feelings (can’t have everyone crying and screaming at your birthday party, right?). It’s not like time will snap you out of it without any effort though: use resources for emotional recovery when needed- go get a professional counselor if need be or hit the gym hard. Also refrain from texting or messaging one another all the time during this stage – that heals absolutely nothing!

[Table] Meditation Tips

Before Diving into tips on staying friends post-breakup, try practicing these easy-peasy meditation exercises to become chill as ice…cold beer:

(Title) (Description)
Meditation tip #1 Deep breathing techniques
Meditation tip #2 Mantra repetition
Meditation tip #3 Progressive muscle relaxation

Tip: If all else fails, crank up “No Scrubs” as loud as possible in your room and bust out some sweet dance moves until sweaty exhaustion!

Closed Chapter

Okay so now we’ve processed our emotions somewhat while gaining calmness through our meditations ….. next step is closure. Closure doesn’t mean going over every minute detail of what happened between the two of you (though ‘I’m sorry cupcakes’ validates forgiving a betrayal ) Rather closure involves acknowledging that sometimes things just don’t work out , and maybe knowing that’s okay..Move towards understanding why they didn’t last (“It’s really no fun watching wet paint dry together”) Dust yourself off; lick your wounds; even sing Taylor Swift songs– whatever helps you grieve, then move forward positively (Rhino skin girl – let’s do this)

[Bullet points] Top Tips for Moving Forward

The following bullet points outline additional useful pieces of knowledge when aiming for friendship post-romantic demise.

  • Respect boundaries- create them, stick to them and respect both yours and your ex’s.
  • Never use social media as a weapon – no personal subs (passive-aggressive little ticks about the past) on an inactive post or shared memes howling at fate …too soon!
  • Don’t be too hard on each other when discussing what went ‘wrong’ in the relationship- just remembering there were good times too-(or maybe not– they coulda been trash all along…who knows? Who cares?)
  • Keep it transparent- honesty is always key
  • Focus more one building friendship overtime rather than being instant buddies – no rush but moving forward optimistically.

Communication

Okay so you’ve worked through some heavy emotions; practiced beneficial meditations for clarity ; then experienced closure; while following additional guidance like helpful tips (& refraining from any online ill words.) In which case now its time to fancy yourself with communication.

For better thinking toward friendship communication skill determines success rate. There are no rules here really besides how you feel… Though sprinkling some of these tactics can make things run smoother:

Depersonalisation

This means talking about events that occurred instead of making accusations( “you’re a liar” vs. “you didn’t tell me the truth”) Keeping non-judging attitudes .

Active Listening

Which can mean repeating back what somebody told us (“What I hear you saying is”), asking if we understood correctly , empathizing their requirements/feelings, avoiding interrupting before they finish speaking & paying full attention (AWAY FROM PHONE!!)

[Table] Dare To Try These Cool Words Next Time You’re Having A Conversation With Them!

Cool Words Description
“Opine” A cool word for expressing strongly held opinions
“Echelon” A great replacement for tiers or groups
“Epiphany” This word is an awesome substitute for the ‘aha’ moment kinda thing.

( And I bet you’re like: why are cool words relevant to me making amends with an ex in terms of being friends? Me : Calm Your Pants, champ—These make communication more fun while teaching us important verbal expressions…So go ahead and use them already.. shoot your shot!)

[Divider+ Footnote] The Final Analysis

Getting over somebody probably means different things to different people; we aren’t mindreaders here…^† Our mission is not always accomplished by simply becoming pals (BUT if hey if you achieve all-star level friendship- I’m impressed!) Simply realize that sometimes its just letting go on good terms…. much nicer than never wanting to see/hear from each other ever again.

[Snap FingerZ=Insert one last Tid Bit Of Wisdom]: Hanging onto negativity generates nothing but a bad aura around yourself; baby steps towards positivity or nurturing feelings will likely create bright outcomes later on!

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