How to get a guy to be your friend again?

So, you’ve just realized that one of your guy-friends has been avoiding you lately or maybe he’s completely ghosted on you. But here’s the rub: You have no idea why he’s doing this and how to get him back in your life. You’re feeling distressed and hopeless but don’t lose heart, because we’ve got some expert advice for you! It’s not rocket science, really; everything is within the realm of common sense so let’s dive into it!

Maintain A Pause

First things first- give the guy some space. Not everyone is comfortable with confrontation, so if there was an argument or a disagreement recently between both parties – then taking time apart can help clear heads in order to step forward without emotion governing our every decision.

Taking more popcorn breaks when watching movies together than usual? Checking Instagram instead of chatting during football games? These are all pretty good signs that they might be heading towards friend-breakup territory – so pressing too hard initially could make things worse.

Try Being Honest

It’s never easy being honest- especially when the truth may hurt someone else’s feelings. The best course of action here would be honesty while still keeping consideration for the other person. However hard it seems initially, addressing what was done wrong head-on using “I” statements rather than criticism will often work out far better with a positive resolution.

Without realizing it sometimes certain actions on our side like backing out at short notice after deciding earlier as yes/making circumstances unpredictable etc., could lead to making somebody upset enough and distancing from us subconsciously. It happens easily enough – one day no answer turns into weeks go by without phone-calls/ messaging – this doesn’t necessarily mean we’ve been forgotten about though but rather something might have gone awry along the way which can be fixed through OPE such as grown-ups..sorry, we mean mature adults – can communicate.

Make A Plan To Meet Up

Meetups can be awkward, but it’s important to address what happened with a face-to-face conversation. Do not expect a grand “Hi! I missed you” reunion, go for something simple such as pitching in for lunch together or asking him to just hang out at some joint that is unbiased either side(by which we mean the local pub — don’t want to give the wrong impression!). That way there won’t be too much pressure on one another and could ease back into each other’s company without any strings attached.

It’s important whilst here also, not to bring up past issues unless needed for apology/make-up purposes- doesn’t hurt touching base but harping over things repeatedly leads nowhere.

Due diligence should be taken beforehand making sure nothing toxic like alcohol involved unless they’ve been innocent enough considering all circumstances being equal then no harm, no foul!

Fix The Issue Together

What went down between us??? Plot twist incoming- this is serious stuff guys (Nope.. We lied.. It’s mostly petty squabbles over who gets the bigger slice of cake!) However small it might seem, especially if both parties felt personally attacked by comments thrown around etc., resolving issue as quickly possible guaranteed lead better bond moving forward vs pretending wasn’t an issue in first place hence ignoring completely and remaining distanced forevermore(ain’t nobody got time fo’ dat).

Approaching These shortcomings head-on issuing apologies where necessary shows them that you care about their well-being too regardless of iffiness/remorse caused initial fallout circumstance arose from— smoothing things talking through adverse events crucial regaining friendship.

For instance- perhaps making light-hearted joke dig at somebody due-billowing extra beer money owed; bothering said drinker days after event (if still upset) leaving random voicemail confessing comedic crimes committed under guise great crime caper planned helps deescalate any negative feelings.

Follow-Up With New Experiences

That previously mentioned pub (where appropriate) is a great opportunity to create new memories around familiar scenery together again; experiencing the same things carry past joy will also share laughter once more. It shows continuing appreciation and enthusiasm for friendship showing it’s highly valued- worth it excellent showing proving that certain snags would never come between actual friends further strengthening bond shared mutual basis of social interactions/entertainment.

Below are some tactics that can be implemented depending on situation in order to regain friend’s confidence:

Difficulty Level Tactic
Easy Invite them somewhere on your Birthday or Christmas-gives impression caring / taking notice of special dates “oh did I tell you what happened then” catching up conversationopportunities..gaaaaalore!
Moderate Share Experience Together Example: Converting DIY furniture YouTube vids into real life attempts -using power tools rather limited but still ambivalent about its usage. Better Attempting than Doing Nothing at all, right?
Tricky Ask Friends For Help Getting ‘Em Back Involve third-party members actively assisting with getting back through bringing people altogether venue-could be ideal strategy fixing the issue.since everyone involved –will collectively help solidify bonds.

Consequently – these plans can work if both parties genuinely invested time energy into making amends where needed +/ professional emphasis continued growth within relationship overtime etc., communication brings us closer understanding each other better.

In conclusion, rebuilding relationships takes effort patience, so no one should ever force reconciliation before both parties on board similar page working towards fix existing issues open conversation essential throughout resolution entire process won’t happen overnight probably weeks/months etc., ultimately resulting in longer-lasting friendships left with less ambiguity while travelling down memory lane. Strange too-wryd places parted ways though never too late great excuse anywhere! It’s not easy but heck, don’t we deserve some joy in our lives at least?

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