How to call it quits with someone you love?

Breaking up is hard to do. Breaking up with someone you love can be heartbreaking. But sometimes, no matter how much you care about them, the relationship just isn’t working out. Maybe they’re not treating you right or maybe your feelings have changed (or maybe their new haircut is just too terrible to tolerate).

It’s important to handle a breakup in a thoughtful and respectful way, both for yourself and the person you’re breaking up with. With that in mind, here are some tips on how to call it quits with someone you love.

Think Before You Act

The first step in ending any kind of romantic relationship is taking some time alone to think things through. This will help ensure that your decision is one made from careful consideration rather than knee-jerk emotion.

Here are some questions worth asking yourself:

  • Why do I want to break up?
  • Am I sure this is what I want?
  • Can we work through our issues or am I ready for a clean slate?

Be Honest (But Kind)

When it comes time to actually tell your partner that it’s over, honesty is key (except when answering ‘Do these pants make my butt look big?’ – don’t ever be honest then).

Be clear and concise in expressing why the relationship isn’t working for you anymore. Remember though: there are ways to be honest without being cruel (rose-colored glasses analogy anyone?).

For example:

“I need more space” = Good

“You suffocate me like cling wrap” = Not so good

Talk about what went wrong between the two of you without throwing blame around as if all problems were only created by one party involved(reasons can vary):

“We have grown apart” = Good

“I’ve realized our whole past was based on lies” = NOT GOOD

(give specific examples at times, like ‘I told you I love sushi but in reality, every time we went to a restaurant together your presence made me lose my appetite’)

Choose the Right Place and Time

Choose an appropriate setting for breaking up. Don’t do it over text message, phone call or WhatsApp voice call (who breaks up with someone via chats anyway?).

Instead, pick a location that is neutral where you can have privacy and won’t be interrupted

Here are some examples of good locations:

  • A quiet cafe
  • A park bench
  • Top of a hill
    (top of Mount Everest may not work if one person hates cold weather)

Avoid places where many people will be around if you don’t want fresh audience:

  • Fyre Festival (too late)
  • Pool Party – s. Terzic
  • Awkward reception party with all his/her friends
    (all laughing pointing fingers at him/her while enjoying their drinks out in public)

Finally, timing is key! Make sure they aren’t having the worst day ever already (imagine..they just found out they have been fired then receive break-up speech soon after!)

Try avoiding breakups during these scenarios:

  • While shaving your partner’s facial hair
  • At family festivities/ Important wedding event
  • During sex

Selecting the right place & moment eases both heartbreaks and concerns about crowd pile-ups!

Stick to Your Decision

Once you’ve broken up with someone it can feel like everything has changed back to square zero there would really no growth : not true !

It’s important to stand by your decision. Once things are finalized officially it’s high time distance yourself say goodbye emotionally too.(making occasional visits that lead into make-out sessions certainly doesn’t qualify as moving on)

This ensures that both parties involved can start looking forward without feeling like there might be some hope things could be improved upon (unless you’re secretly hoping to start a soap opera & end up getting back together after yearsss).

Get Emotional Support

Breaking up with someone is never easy. Even if it’s the right thing to do, you may still feel sad or upset afterwards. That’s completely normal! Never underestimate these feelings surrounding breakups as they can lead into bigger issues and often require attention.

This is why finding emotional support in friends, family or a therapy session (depending on severity) can help you move forward and make peace with your decision (while simultaneously stocking up on comfort food during sleepless nights).

Having someone talk through all of those complex emotions and making sense of them helps eliminate regrets over decisions made!

Let Them Move On

While there may be an urge to keep tabs on your ex-partner, checking their social media feeds constantly for updates only prolongs the pain of moving past heart ache (that stalker vibe won’t work unless you’re trying to become the next hit series).

Work on both being independent which opens healthy space this way :

  • Unsubscribe from each other’s feeds
  • Manage their contact details
  • Stick to cordial hellos: just enough that would’nt prompt any deep rooted conversation.

It ensures that everyone gets ample breathing process for full closure .

Keep Up With Your Hobbies And Interests –

One important step forward post-breakup is considering picking hobbies or interests where one thrives individually without setting aside self growth along relationship lines ….. think about investing time in yourself like becoming a great cook , running marathons (not away from exes but towards personal milestones 😉 ), developing fine skills calligraphy enthusiasts”

In no way does engaging in personal activities diminish what was shared before BUT learning something new keeps us looking ahead feeling productive boosting our confidence levels!!!

Breaking up with someone you love is never an easy topic for anyone, but its okay to make choices that are best.

Ultimately, there is no blueprint on how best this decision can be made in a sense that the situation remains unique as every relationship has its own twists and turns . But staying true to who we are, being truthful and showing kindness throughout our transition out of a relationship while still courting self-improvement fuels us through the process until try at happiness once again!

P.S : Remember …dont forget chocolate/ ice cream aids !!!!

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