How to beat a narcissist at the silent treatment?

Are you tired of being ignored by a narcissistic partner? Are you looking for ways to flip the script and win at the silent treatment game? Look no further, dear reader, as we have compiled some foolproof tactics that are sure to make your narcissistic partner squirm.

Understanding the Narcissist’s Game

Before we dive into the strategies, let us first understand why a narcissist resorts to using silence as a weapon. A narcissist is someone who has an inflated sense of self-importance and lacks empathy towards others. They believe they are superior in every aspect and deserve constant admiration and attention from their partners.

When things do not go according to plan, or when their ego takes a hit, they resort to what is known as ‘the silent treatment.’ This could range from depriving you of any communication or withdrawing physically/mentally/emotionally.

The goal behind this move is threefold: 1) To exert control over you 2) To punish you for “misbehaving” 3) And finally get what they want – your undivided attention!

Now that we know what drives them, let’s look at how you can outplay them.

Divert Your Attention

A classic tip but still worth mentioning. When faced with someone giving us the cold shoulder or ignoring us altogether, humans’ natural instincts kick in; we try harder! We long for their acceptance and aimlessly search for clues on how best to behave around them. Well stop right there!

By doing so you’re playing right into their hands; it validates that person never had any intention of resolving things through healthy communication lines but only wants undivided attention. Best thing about diverting attention here is that it does more harm than good creating feelings insecurity within themselves leading paranoid thoughts which lead back towards communicating with you.

Instead, ignore their silent treatment like a grain of salt and continue living your best life! Get involved in activities that interests you maybe pick up a hobby or invest your time developing relationships with people who uplift you.

Stay Neutral

It’s essential to maintain neutrality when dealing with a narcissistic partner. They thrive on negative energy, so don’t feed into it by reacting impulsively to their antics.

When the silent treatment is employed upon you stay calm, neutral and stoic; Show them through examples how they can learn from peace without engaging themselves in toxic behaviour which would definitely lead towards them coming back as this will only fuel their egos further.

By showing yourself unmoved makes room for conversations where they might reveal something about themselves “oh have I been acting tough? Silently?” planting seeds of change within leading empathy altogether possible not just between each other but self-care growth too.

Play The Role Of Detective & Planner

A little reverse psychology wouldn’t hurt here. Assess what topics/subjects are most likely to spark engagement positively with him/her earlier such as work-related accomplishments or progress in hobbies they previously enjoyed talking passionately about before falling out was initiated (You’ve got 1 shot at this tactic- choose wisely!)

Once identified plan interactions that cannot be avoided without including them – e.g., Office parties etc.. This helps plant ideas sowing normalcy over these interactions when he/she complies if followed strictly leaves opportunity for grooming building an honest relationship again.

Emphasize on experiences together leaving cheesy messages after hanging out reminiscing special moments using casual ways of texting such as tagging memes or sending praise emojis, setting laughter-vibes between both naturally!

Important note: Don’t appear desperate while scheduling meetups : You are going there because it’s important that both maturely pass forward resolving omissions drama-free rather than leave behind unresolved messiness allowing negativity eventually hindering the relationship prospering in the long run.

Stay Independent

Last but not least, always put your independence first. Remember that you are responsible for your happiness and well-being and should never depend on someone else for it- Not even someone who previously held significant value in your life.

Being independent entails taking control of one’s own emotions especially when dealing with a narcissistic partner who is intentionally pushing buttons to draw their own desired reactions from you out of insecurity, thus proactively cutting this at its root gives little room for manipulation hence leading them towards conversations instead the childish behaviour they/they projected earlier, eventually working through any issues transparently WITHOUT needing validating feedback drawing affirmation or praise than necessary back into their lives.

Additionally, by being confident and secure within yourself increases mental stability paving way clear to focus on what’s important in life without worrying about sour silent treatment cards played by others such as “love” interests acting out of line trying draining loved ones energy levels! So keep an optimistic outlook soar confidently & be true to YOURSELF!!

Now that we have given you our most powerful strategies against the narcissist’s infamous ‘silent treatment’ game, go ahead and apply them; maybe even add some creativity – (not too overboard though hehe)!

Remember: Retake control of situations around made communicated smoothly recovering relationships no matter how far gone while throwing shade off making growth possible.

Wishing you all happy endings–freedom from toxic relations forever !

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