How long does it take to fully trust someone?

Ah, trust. That elusive thing we give away so freely and then spend years trying to earn back. It’s like giving someone a piece of your heart and hoping they don’t drop it on the floor or choke on it.

But how long does it actually take to fully trust someone? And what factors come into play? Let’s dive in and try to get some answers, shall we?

The Basics of Trust

Before we can even begin discussing how long it takes to trust someone, we need to define what ‘trust’ actually means. According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary (not that I know anything about referencing sources…), trust is “assured reliance on the character, ability, strength or truth of someone or something.”

Basically, when you trust somebody, you believe in their competence and integrity. You have faith that they will act appropriately and not let you down.

Breaking Down Trust

Now that we know what trust is all about; let’s dig deeper into its various components:

Reliability

If you’re going to place your faith in somebody, they need first be reliable (duh).

Reliability is based on consistency – if somebody repeatedly delivers upon their promises over time than our level of reliability grows stronger for them over time as well – this includes showing up when expected!

Somebody being “unreliable” has more often than not led me astray which leads us right into our second component…

Honesty

You cannot build any type of relationship without honesty – nobody likes a liar…unless he’s lying about tasting good with Ketchup because then at least his core values are aligned!

When people show dishonesty towards other individuals she will irrefutably cast doubt upon herself moving forward in every kind of relationship which makes them hard afk To gain oneself again…

Oh yeah! Moving along…

Transparency

While a person’s level of transparency directly reflects their honest nature, as it comes to being trusted, people who demonstrate ‘more’ information sharing with regard to themselves and what they do for living are more likely to be perceived as trustable! It’s natural that after all the bad experiences one would correlate how truthful someone is by the amount they share in detail about different aspects of life.

So, those three components – reliability, honesty and transparency – contribute towards building trust!

Time Takes its Course

But you might still be wondering: “Okay cool but HOW LONG does it take for these things to develop?”

Well, that depends upon multiple factors…

Dependence on Experiences

Your personal experiences play an important role in determining how much time you need before trusting somebody again. (insert another “duh” here).

Have some unfortunate event happens t your life? well then voila jackpot friends because no fun-loving person loves untrustworthy individuals…especially if said experience was associated with someone deceiving you.

As we grow older ((without Getting Wiser)), we learn which qualities are must-haves when forming new relationships (friends or romantic) too..so if spent waking up at 5 am talking about our ex today shows your ability to maintain a healthy friendship scheme).

Level of Trauma

Being able to completely trust somebody else post-trauma situation can potentially lead down several paths.

There will always remain doubt when something has gone awry in past- even though years may have passed since last incident! Surprising right…

It doesn’t matter however long ago trauma happened; effects DO stay present over period unless started bravely facing them. So relying heavily on others just isn’t part of picture yet doing so cautiously could eventually heal old wounds.

Such an instance is likened unto putting bandage over wound knowing full-well this particular cut already scabbed over! Turns out wounds don’t disappear that quickly because they take time to heal, and so does trust.

Life Patterns

Freakin’ habitual patterns play another key role in determining how much can be trusted. Somebody who repeatedly lets you down – regardless their reasons or excuses – is simply “Someone who should never have expected that I would ever trust him/her again whatsoever”.

It seems as over the years certain types of people seem to only think about themselves resulting into nothing put opportunistic behavior, predictably consistent…The more perceptive we become about red flags when dealing with these kinds of folks rather than overlooking them will potentially save us from uncomfortable situations moving forward!

Such individuals are certainly bound for “one tid-wolves” label meaning; if not nurtured around person aligned with core values aligning their connection cannot sustain healthily!

Decision Making skills

Ever heard someone say: “I judge a person’s character based on how they treat servers/wait staff/bartenders/[insert taxidermists here]”? Same method goes while evaluating whether there’s room locating a person worth trusting within this context too.

Most first impressions can be misleading at times, but take note of evening spent hanging out – assess his vibe (personality), body language specifically during conversations?

Figure Out what makes him tick…to understand hidden attributes an individual possesses prior investing emotional energy into relationship lest those whimsy qualities unexpectedly lead towards disappointment by experience.

Our State of Mind

Many would swear to heavens above that it is utterly impossible ever obtaining total confidence in other human being…but nevertheless ‘confidence’ plays into our ability whilst doling out any type of trust overall.

If mind generally resides in good space; positivity deals favorably establishing good relationships along way. That means once initial encounters happen under the right circumstances like try having open-minded attitude around people whom never met before choosing wisely thereafter then likely enjoying much larger circle one can trust depend upon!

Trusting Yourself

Can’t ignore this – while trusting others important, self-trust critical too.

One of the biggest challenges faced when building trust is being fearful regarding your own judgment! Self-doubt may start taking its course if something goes wrong but know that you trusted until yours gut told otherwise… so don’t be too hard on yourself around such matters even though it sucks initially with a few lessons will eventually come out much stronger having refinedly identified boundaries before involving other people in life again…

Don’t underestimate ability for yourself when evaluating new relationships successfully time and again—trusting definitely isn’t easy however receiving social support, setting realistic personal goals amidst friends whilst keeping open lines communication help surmount those experiences ever available.

You put me down as “loner” several years ago and I’ve had every right in putting an end towards becoming tool myself over these past few years …so give credit where credit rightfully deserves to be given peeps..

Conclusion: How Long Does It Take to Fully Trust Someone?

So…how long does it take to fully trust somebody?

Sorry guys – I really dont have answer unless tell you saying
“It depends” (huge shoutout from Asian parents everywhere), which would bring any conversation awkwardly quickly obvious conclusion. Alas, it all just really depends on aforementioned factors above…and many I didn’t mention at times!

It takes some MUCH longer than others while someone builds trust level more easily depending their experience whether positive or negative ones faced till now. Sometimes no matter how we earn confidence level in ourselves overwhelming cautiously making decisions regarding new friendships proves beneficial before diving head-out into unknown territories one won’t regret later-on…

Take everything stated with heavy grains salt; figuring everyone falls somewhere part of spectrum instead staying fixated exact time period required placing full-fledged faith within another individual / fwhen they say honesty is best policy/.

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