How high is my self esteem?
Everyone wants to feel good about themselves. Some people are born with boundless confidence, while others struggle to maintain even the slightest amount of self-esteem. In this article, we’ll look at some ways to determine just how high your self-esteem is.
What Is Self-Esteem?
Before we dive in, let’s define what exactly self-esteem is. It’s the degree to which you value yourself as a person (sorry not sorry for starting out with such an obvious statement). People with high self-esteem generally think highly of themselves and believe they have something valuable to offer the world.
On the other hand, those with low self-esteem may see themselves in a negative light and doubt their worthiness or abilities.
Signs Of Low Self-Esteem
You might be thinking “I don’t have low self-esteem… do I?” Here are some signs that you might need a little boost.
- Negative self-talk: Do you routinely criticize yourself or put yourself down? That inner critic can be harsher than any enemy.
- Avoiding challenges: Are there things you say no too without trying because you don’t believe that anything positive will come out from it?
- Fear of failure: When avoiding challenge wasn’t successful enough – did fear take over? If so read on!
- Comparisons: Constantly comparing how well someone else does compared to you goes way beyond competition! So stop stalking Susan from accounting!
Experiences in life can cause us all kinds of emotional setbacks but when these emotions stick around more often than not then perhaps it’s time assess our approach towards ourselves and build up our esteem levels.
Alrighty now onto 4 ways which could lend insight into where on that scale one falls:
Method 1 : Mirror Test
Because everything good starts by looking ourselves square in our face
Stand before a mirror and gaze at yourself what do you notice? The person staring back at you – is it someone who seems to be self-assured or unhappy or irritated (for reasons sometimes unknown) with the reflection in front of them?
When we don’t feel good from within, this can reflect externally too. We might not even realise that the continuous bad thoughts about ourselves can cloud our image of how people perceive us, making it hard for genuine compliments to sink in.
Simply observing oneself and surrounding oneself with positive messages helps boost confidence – so keep some happy quotes around on post-it notes!
Method 2: Brainstorming
Cue Thinking Cap
Grab a pen and paper (if google docs is more your vibe, smooth!) try doing a brain dump list all things good about yourself! start from girl I rock this colour nail varnish to thinking willington reminds me old times!!!
By writing such positives down, negative emotions are less likely going to get as much attention anymore.
Worry not if boasting makes one cringe- It’s important realize that a exercise like this isn’t arrogance but simply acknowledging strengths which oughtselves motivates & keeps negative energies away
Method 3: Reframing Negative Thoughts
Converting negativity into positivity = gold medal approach!
Sometimes identifying negatives can easily become far more natural than locating positivity… which often leads individuals straight into that fault-finding space.
When unwanted thoughts pop up especially those containing ‘I am …’ statements replace ‘I am..’ with “Research shoes…”
For example:
“I’m lazy” becomes “Research shows human beings need rest in order thrive”
It automatically changes perspective allowing for refuelled mindsets.
If blank page syndrome strikes then search engines are oh-so-willing give assistance when seeking constructive mantras looking to make an impact!
Method 4: Supporting Others In-Person And Online
Cycles of positivity
Spreading good feelings by introducing ourselves to new people, being generous and supportive can help boost confidence just as much for the people receiving it as giver! As long as person respects boundaries & other human being.
Helping those around us gives that often-so-hard-to-get feel-good hormone – dopamine pumping – which is quite different than the cheap knock off one receives from indulging in a lack of self-worth!
Another experiment could be sending and replying back positive affirmations constantly on social media or perhaps spending an afternoon volunteering somewhere. The idea now is to come up with creative ways involve oneself doing something altruistic.
Conclusion
There’s no single way to measure your level of self-esteem, but hopefully these four methods have given you some insight into how we are inclined towards unnecessarily scouring over negatives while making strides towards progress
The most important thing is that you actively work on building up your confidence and recognizing your worthiness. After all, the more comfortable you are with yourself, the easier life becomes!