Fear of abandonment: I always worry my boyfriend will leave me

Fear of abandonment is a common and understandable concern for many people in any kind of intimate relationship. Unfortunately, that fear can be quite intense and ultimately damaging when it comes to romantic relationships. For those who suffer from this fear, the thought of their partner leaving them is all-consuming and creates negative emotions such as insecurity, anxiety and obsessive thoughts.

In this article, we’ll explore what exactly it means to have a fear of abandonment in a relationship(), what some possible causes are(#)and how you might go about working through those feelings(). Here are some valuable insights based on personal experiences() gathered over time:

Blame your parents (just kidding…maybe)

Almost everyone has experienced childhood traumas which may contribute negatively toward one’s adult life(###). Your attachment style typically reflects the type of nurturing environment you grew up with(###).[1] For instance, if your primary caregiver wasn’t always ‘there’ when you needed him/her(#), then the probability remains high that adulthood would see a pattern similar to craving attention from others seemingly beyond normalcy.

How fear drives us bad bonkers

As humans/creatures (’99½ percent chimpanzee by DNA’, as per renowned Jared Diamond)(#),we’re naturally designed to function smoothly via fundamental stimuli like social interaction; hence why absence or non-normative reaction therein can threaten our entirely practical functionality. Whenever we perceive threats against our existent homeostatic balance(i.e., feel unsafe or insecure) sturdily built by reciprocal relationships with significant individuals/institutionalties/acquaintances (like employers,#$%&!!!)(,),our default defense mechanism kicks into gear. That sometimes manifests itself as neediness(,).

Have You ever felt like checking every minute whether Jim-Bob’s texted back yet? Or Ever felt excessively angry/sad/depressed over trivial ignorance from somebody although you two are barely an item yet? If yes, then you’ve been a victim of the monster that perpetually nurtures fear.

Tackling ‘Bob-the-feared

Firstly(), always note that experiencing fear and other strong emotions doesn’t imply clinical abnormality. It’s human. You’re not damaged goods!
With deep reflection(#)$%&!!!;)and distant mentorship(in close quarters or online therapy)(,,,), there are measures to have control over your anxiety-induced issues:

Acknowledge the emotion

One is expected to acknowledge his/her feelings (either good or bad) by bringing them into conscious awareness().

Take specific actions

Anxiety can sometimes lead us astray unto futile searches for security against perilous situations/feelings. Start taking specific actions necessary in securing yourself and boosting confidence/trust in self(,).

Stick To routines

Maintain a healthy routine alongside engaging activities like reading books, working on hobbies etc…It will keep boredom at bay.

Bottom line

Remember: The key is discussing troubling thoughts with partner as personal communication alone might bring in positive progress(,). Don’t forget to prioritize own self developmental ventures while maintaining link(s) with partner(@@)!

Dane Raynor

Hey there, I’m Dane Raynor, and I’m all about sharing fascinating knowledge, news, and hot topics. I’m passionate about learning and have a knack for simplifying complex ideas. Let’s explore together!