Do i bored you?

We’ve all been there. It’s a Wednesday night, you’re sitting across from your significant other or a friend, and suddenly the thought pops into your head- “Do I bore you?” Maybe it’s because they’re scrolling through their phone while you talk, or maybe it’s just a nagging insecurity that creeps in when conversation lulls. Regardless of the reason for this question popping up, we’re here to explore it further.

The Fear

The fear of being boring is every person’s nightmare. There are many articles out there about how to always be interesting; however the reality is actually quite simple: nobody can be fascinating all time. Sometimes small talk with someone close is more than enough to spend time together happily.
So why do we worry so much about whether or not we’re boring people?

Are We Actually Boring

One possibility could simply be that our brains naturally jump to worst-case-scenarios like what if he/she finds me uninteresting/annoying? However, sometimes this self-doubt might stem deeper from earlier life experiences that have affected us unconsciously.

Let’s take an example

You may remember as far back as high school- the popular kids at lunchtime who laughed berated those they deemed ‘boring.’ Perhaps since then, doubts about social belongingness have lingered.

Another Possibility: Think Outside Yourself

Yes, perhaps something else altogether has caused them disengagement during conversations:

Maybe:
-An intensity concern
-A workplace crisis
-The future uncertainty kept tormenting him/her
–COVID19 anxiety didn’t leave much room for leisure thoughts

Regardless of why others react distantly towards us (as humans seek connection usually) ,most feel vulnerable –that silence over hot drinks might confirm impersonal relationship status.

So Are All Conversations Unavoidably Monotonous?

Boring conversations happen. However, there’re other ways to think about it as well:

-It’s Possible They Are Not Expecting The Conversation To Be Interesting

Not every conversation has to be fascinating- some people just connect and seem comfortable in the moment.

Or Maybe You Have Something To Share:

Though human brains are quite similar, everyone has lived a unique story.
If you dig deep enough or if listeners showed interest with relevant questions,you could share what brings you joy ,the time your happiness fell through crack.It isn’t interesting because of drama but because its happening to/ happened to you,a statement no one can contest.your thoughts on everyday struggles,future plans etc.

What Can You Do If Boredom Seems Inevitable?

Even if we know social situations can cause anxiety before,the cycle cannot snap without making some changes.Enforcing interactions for the sake of pleasing someone will weaken confidence within no time.Here at 10 tips that may help:

Tip One: Move out Of Your Comfort Zone

Instead of chatting over coffee again,it is worthwhile experiencing something new.Think outdoors beyond evening routine; morning walk by waterfall,sneak peak antique train station/photoshoot-worthy park nearby maybe?People remember how moments make them feel –do something different!

Tip Two: Engage With Others Who Usually Interest You

Have one friend who never seems bored while talking with them? Invest yourself at shared interests meetings/hobbies even more.There’s high likelihood they will respond enthusiastically than partners simply trying hard not let their eyes gaze elsewhere.

### Tip Three :Ensure Yourself And Surroundings Are Stimulating
Maybe a drab office atmosphere makes others appear disengaged.Return shared office greetings from co-workers like ‘good day,’with “Hey, did anyone see how spectacular sunset was last night?”

Tip Four :Enthusiasm Is Contagious

when enthusiastic about ideas/others in the conversation,even monotonic people may get greatly involved.The mind always craves learning something new ,who knows they could learn from you.

Tip Five :Be Specific

No need to incorporate multiple complaints or concerns onto one blanket statement. Take a specific aspect and explore it together.Find out why George Lucas made certain changes through different versions of Star Wars movies etc.This can keep discussions flowing for a while achieving seconds bond closer

Tip six: Use Humor To Help Ease Tension

The obvious stand-up comedy isn’t necessary,but utilizing light hearted humor helps ease natural tension developed.Simple jokes takes down walls.

Conclusion:

“Do I bore you?” While we hope this article has provided helpful tips,this question reveals such deep fears about what our friends/partners think of us. Truth is, everyone’s tastes/expectations differ some more than others.found company/invested thought will have already deemed time well-spent!

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