Decoding the Root Cause: Why Are People So Toxic?
Have you ever encountered people who are just plain toxic? The ones who suck out all your energy and leave you feeling drained and beaten down. Well, if you have, there’s a good chance that it isn’t just you. It turns out that many people around us exhibit toxic behavior without even realizing it.
Now, before we begin decoding the root cause of this problem, let’s first understand what exactly is meant by “toxic behavior.” Toxic behavior, to put it briefly, encompasses any action or attitude that harms others in some way.
So why do so many people exhibit such behaviors innately? Let’s delve into some reasons for such actions.
Nature vs. Nurture
The debate continues on nature versus nurture – whether a person behaves a certain way due to inherent genes (nature) or their upbringing and environment (nurture). While both sides contribute toward shaping one’s personality traits ‘more likely than not’ nurture often plays the predominant role.
A common reason behind toxic behavior is related to someone being raised with negative reinforcement where they were always told that by being aggressive could solve problems/ get things done faster rather than learning how to communicate effectively.
However , most of us go through situations like these yet don’t end up involving their disputes forcefully; which totally debunks ‘Nature’ playing an important part here!
But what does play its part is how each individual takes nurturing factors differently according to society norms as well psychological adjustments technique via cognitive biases!
For Example- A child brought up in an oppressed household might internalise this oppression making them inherently inclined towards similar behaviour patterns when faced with tough scenarios.
Let me take your mind into perspective-
You’re walking around Tesco trying to find some Mayonnaise for your sandwich cravings at home but then suddenly walk into a couple arguing loudly about ‘which brand of peanut butter is better’? -This entire kitchen ingredients conversation leads them to raise voices at one another, and suddenly you’re stuck in the middle of what feels like a warzone.
Henceforth toxic behaviors can originate from an individual-specific or societal level experiences that breed within, spilling out into how we react emotionally under certain situations. Everyone’s upbringing has been different, so have the way each perceives behaviour patterns when met with intrusive disagreements!
Here are some generalized reasons as to why people exhibit toxicity:
Personal Insecurity
Insecure individuals tend to put others down to compensate for their lack of self-confidence.
They insult the achievements or even physical aspects (‘toxic-appearance-shaming’) of those around who make them feel belittled over petty issues!
But here’s something weird: They might also try convincing themselves and others often enough they’re trying to “help” by pointing out flaws.
Word To The Wise- Your ‘Criticalness’ Isn’t Being Helpful Always, It Can Exhibit Harmful Traits Eventually!!
Past Trauma
However ,It isn’t just insecurity that shapes toxic mindsets. Sometimes past traumatic events result in seemingly aggressive reactions (“fight mentality”) when triggered by similar confrontation stimuli .
Such incidents suppress emotional reasoning when confronted similarly again (like fight-or-flight instict)-here “being critical” could be more about coping mechanisms rather than actual intentions.
Some Coping Mechanisms:
Example | Description |
---|---|
Projection | Where your own unpleasant feelings/thoughts shashay towards someone else – making it easier for oneself but not necessarily helpful . |
Rationalizing | Explaining a feedback loop via faulty logic and flawed thought processes – provides a sense of comfort despite being unwise / irrelevant commentary! |
Emotional blackmail | – This flip side involves forcing someone to receive a unfavourable reaction by indirectly making them feel guilty / blaming themselves for an unfortunate incident! |
Learned Behavior
Now, this is one of those nature vs. nurture moments again!! Some individuals unknowingly pick-up toxic character traits owing to the environment and experiences that tend to indicate them was somehow ‘a good thing’.
An example would be through social media platforms; aggressive often “funny” retorts become common place while actual effort on calm communication (restrained behaviour) takes more time thereby becoming less popular .
Here’s some insight regarding learned behavior :
Example | Impact |
---|---|
Social Media- Harsh Comments being admired | Displays Aggressiveness so as make oneself appear unafraid in any situation what so ever even if it serves no purpose! |
Rumour-mongering amongst friend circles | Reduces the necessity of facts/ proof via sensational unverified content , eventually leading towards harmful situations. |
You read that right … People exhibiting basic toxic behaviours ! What’s worse? It is easy for others around them ‘to catch onto’ their bad habits.
And because they’re already convinced these behaviours are justified or helpful – they propagate such actions . Plus, people surrounding them might assume a similar approach towards uncomfortable scenarios coming forth with uncalled-for responses in emotional battles .
Basically what spreads faster than fire nowadays? Our increasing tendency towards normalized ‘overreactions’ since we’ve been taught that vocal aggression/assertive stand points seem cool and one checks all necessary boxes proving themselves dominant!
But do remember: Dominance does not equate respect.
So here comes the million-dollar question – can people alter their ways? Can toxicity control itself?
Absolutely !
It starts with introspection – Reevaluating yourself without completely shrinking away but rather resolving conflicts within oneself which adds self-actualization towards encouragement of healthy behaviour patterns.
One needs to take responsibility and understand that the way they treat people shouldn’t be something to ponder over once one reaches a certain degree of ‘attachment’. Instead, it should become an intrinsic value system!
Relearning how not every negative experience must be faced with anger can ultimately lead you towards calmer thought processes and ego-checking among previously made decisions!
The consumption rate of being biased in perspectives/behaviours via presumptions leads us nowhere. It’s easier than we think- simple step by step alterations going down tailor-made approaches based on our own experiences is more critical than catching up with toxic behaviours simply because its trending!
So guys – let’s make efforts for a better communal behavior and circle around happy/sane individuals employing constructive criticism rather than always looking out for what seems like another means to assert ourselves dominance or superiority imaginary societal points!!
Hey there, I’m Dane Raynor, and I’m all about sharing fascinating knowledge, news, and hot topics. I’m passionate about learning and have a knack for simplifying complex ideas. Let’s explore together!
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