Betrayed by Your Girlfriend? Here’s What to Do When She Lied to You

We’ve all been lied to at some point in our lives, but nothing compares to the feeling of betrayal when it comes from someone you love. So, what do you do when your girlfriend lies to you? It can be a tricky situation, and there are no easy answers. However, with a little guidance and a lot of humor (fingers crossed), we’re going to help you navigate this difficult terrain.

Take a Step Back

Before you start plotting your revenge against your lying girlfriend (whatever that may entail), it’s important to take a step back and assess the situation calmly. Don’t jump into any rash decisions just yet! Assess how much time/effort/energy/emotional investment went into this relationship so far.

Ask yourself if what she did was truly devastating or something minor that can be overlooked without harming the relationship. Is this is her first lie/fault/slip-up during your time together or has she done things like this before?

By taking some time alone (if possible) and allowing the anger/hurt/frustration/pain(insert emotions here)to simmer down instead of bursting forth like water over boiling pasta(i.e., spilling outside) , we might actually see things clearly for once.


The Approaches

After giving yourself sometime,it’s now proper timing for classes on ways-to-go!.There are different approaches one could take after being betrayed in such way.Most people tend-to consider direct confrontation as best option- I begTO differ.It really pays-off weighing available-options before making move.

Approach 1 – Direct Confrontation: Yay Or Nay?

This method involves confronting her directly about her lie, asking for an explanation(or an apology). Some men might choose to confront their girlfriends head-on immediately—a red flag here—don’t do this! We know you may have been hurt due to betrayal and all but calm your horses. Let’s look at if it’s a good option.

Pros Of Direct Confrontation
  • You get the truth out in the open.
  • It shows maturity(and calmness).
  • Conversation gives room for improvement/correction
Cons Of Direct Confrontation

Lets-be-honest, most times emotions might take over leading to confrontation escalate(especially on men’s side)
– The discussion can quickly devolve into an argument that won’t answer any questions; it just leads to more pain.

Approach 2 – Be Silent And Wait For Her To Reveal The Truth: Whaaaat!!

This method is best suited when there are doubts. Most Men often accuse their girlfriends when they had no concrete evidence or proof.Let the Cat outta bag yourself(it doesn’t add up)!

It involves playing dumb by pretending nothing happened expecting your girlfriend would come clean herself after sensing guilt(not-so) with time or slip-up(out-of-mind).The trick here is not showing discomfort thus giving her confidence that you don’t suspect anything(confident duo),Alternatively, one could play detective (like secret service agents working undercover)

Either way be prepared for sleepless nights,Military-esque intelligence tactic,Timelines/Chronology Keeping,Bits&Bites collections(Journal-style reporting).

Ask yourself: Do I have enough patience,endurance,and experience(they call this street-smart)to cope with discovery of what led to cover-ups?


Moving Forward

After evaluating possible approach(es), ways forward remain subject-matter.In general during these phase retrospection,reflection,enlightenment,take-off-the-blinders;could be conducted viably.It may pay off big-time being re-acquainted with ‘who-you-were’before getting into healthy relationship.Feedback from truth-telling girlfriends’ interpretation of the relationship, could also enhance improvement.Let’s go ahead and consider ‘Moving Forward’ actions you need to take:

1. Communicate- Virtue is in intelligence

Communication has always being under-noticed power-house in maintaining healthy relationships;betrayal isn’t an exception.If you’re both invested enough then start by communicating with your partner. Speak out!!!Voice those Feelingsand secure their knowledge on which ground needs to be covered as-a-matter-of-u-r-g-e-n-c-y.

Explain how her lie made you feel and get them to explain why it happened.This phase can result into a redefinition of the relationship or may point-out regular checks necessary. Remember communication takes two, not one!

Some questions that could guide conversation include :
What lead-up this ?
Do you want things to remain exactly as they were before?

Remember we’re aiming at cutting down lie count so fewer words doesn’t imply less communication(they are two different beasts!).

2.Forget but don’t forget.

Deciding what action we embark-on after betrayal lies beyond merely moving forward—you have complete choice over how diligently(or insincerely)you handle yourself in any said encounter—

Note:Theres no standard rule for forgiveness,you’ve got-to knowyourself more-it’s all up-to-you!!!

Certainly,it’s good practice making conscious decisions regarding “How”to move forward.Remember when talking about past faults aren’t brought back—Consequently,(affairs,lies et al.)bring subsequent pain/ Inevitable memories.

But hey! decision-making processes there are few sacrifices.Choosing whether/or not to forgive your partner happens largely depending on present situation.When the deed was severe/inhumane(even illegal),then terminating such toxic relationships would be most logical thing.Because if ignoring certain behaviors(lies,faults etc,) end-up escalating into abusive behaviors,then we’re suggesting you cut and run as fast as you could.

3. Make Amends

Making amends is a great way to move forward with your relationship after being lied to by your girlfriend.Of course,a solid heartfelt apology for betraying(instead of dragging out of her mouth) will make both parties carry-on joyfully.However,this isn’t the only meaningful action available.Placing value/care on small gestures(never-spoken-of-until-now),random acts/well-thought-out act-of-kindness can do more than an apology ever would(Especially when it’s not literally asked-for).

Make random phone calls,text messages-offering words of encouragement,affirmation;sick people need not apply(kidding).A welcome back home;Surprise movie tickets or A hundred long-stemmed red roses(Oops! did we say that?!)

Conclusion

In conclusion,Betrayal (in whatever form) is hurtful—and hurts like hell in fact.But taking time to evaluate the situation Before reacting,I.e.-Confrontation/Vengefulness saves everyone some heartache.Like they always advise,”Forgive (but DON’T forget)-a Burying hatchet brings healing”.

And moving forward: Communication,Learning how-to-get-over-Lies,Detective-work,Making-Amendments,Taking-care(Soldier-like endurance at times)—Remains steps-Actions That Would(will!) Help You To Ease Through This.

With those tips, who needs a guidance counselor? 😉 Just kidding—the final decision lies solely on what-you-feel(they did teach me this vowel thingy earlier—What’s “You” Without “I”?).

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