Been Hurt Before? I Know You Have

Have you ever been hurt before? Of course, you have. Whether it’s a physical injury or emotional pain from a breakup, we’ve all experienced the feeling of being hurt in some way.

But why do we get hurt? Is it just part of life, or is there something more to it? And how can we deal with the pain when it happens?

In this article, we’ll delve into the world of being hurt and offer some tips on how to overcome that pain. So sit back, grab a tissue (or two), and let’s dive in!

Why Do We Get Hurt?

To put things simply: We get hurt because humans are fragile creatures. Our bodies are made up of flesh and bone that can be easily damaged by external forces like accidents or illnesses.

And emotionally speaking, our hearts can also be fragile. When someone says unkind words or does something to betray our trust, it causes us emotional pain that takes time to heal.

But here’s the thing: Being vulnerable is not necessarily a bad thing. It allows us to connect with others on a deeper level and experience joy and love in ways that would otherwise be impossible.

Unfortunately though, when we open ourselves up for vulnerability – whether physically, emotionally or spiritually – it also means opening ourselves up for potential harm as well.

The Different Types of Pain

Before going any further on dealing with the aftermaths from being ‘hurt’ until healing occurs; let’s look at different types of pains- both physical and emotional ones:

Physical Pain

Physical injury might come from falling off your bike while trying stunts around town [amateurs alert] causing unexpected injuries- scratches majorly but can result into broken limbs [ouch!]

Emotional Pain

Emotional pain which mostly comes after experiencing heartbreak caused by betrayal;, rejection; criticism;

Spikes

Spikes are the unexpected little moments of pain- mostly emotional, they occur when you think¹ all is well and suddenly it’s not. Like a punch in the gut during an emotionally charged movie scene.

Chronic Pain

Chronic pain might come from sicknesses like arthritis which can persist for years on end without any relief.

Tips On How To Deal With The Pain

When hurt, our natural tendency is to retreat or numb ourselves; what if we opt to react rather than recoil? These suggestions may help:

• Acknowledge your feelings: Give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling: Hurt! Do NOT bottle up!

• Find someone who understands you: This doesn’t necessarily need talking about “it” but perhaps chilling with family or close friends; letting them be around sometimes helps instead of being left alone/ isolated.

If everyone’s busy (which tends to happen), get creative: imagine confiding in a stuffed animal (not really) or writing an anguish-filled letter then throwing it away. It could ease some tension.

• Don’t shy from asking for help: If anyone volunteers once they know how much discomforted/hurtful this has been, don’t shut them off by wallowing longer alone.
  Ask them [positively]: “Could I tell/show you something that will make me vulnerable?” You don’t have to share everything at once, nor do you have obliged revealing sensitive details straightaway due
  to shame blah blah.

N.B.(Avoid depending solely on alcohol as coping mechanism because upon sobering up reality hits back twice fold)

Coping Skills

There are different ways one responds after experiencing painful situations besides acknowledging their weakness including:

Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy typically refers any form of examination done between people having therapist’s expertise and those seeking therapeutic assistance used majorly when consulting mental health specialist amongst other health related conditions.

Psychotherapy Helps:

• Redefine self-awareness by finding the root of psychological pain.

• Finding tools necessary for coping with depression, anxiety and other mental strains

Nutrition:

An important part of our overall health is proper nutrition which provides energy, healthy brain function as well providing vitamins and minerals needed to keep our bodies functional.. I mean who enjoys being in physical pain? Nobody!

Certain diets like vegan might interfere with nutrient intake leading to stress on joints hence causing inflammation that leads to chronic diseases…

Healing Your Pain

So far we’ve talked about why we get hurt and ways of dealing with pain; But how do we recover from it?

1. Don’t hold a grudge: Forgiveness truly heals! Unbuzz your mind from negative thought patterns towards person/s or even yourself.

2. Give Yourself Time: It’s okay if you need space after getting severely hurt where no communication should be made lest—something could end up worsening the already painful feeling.

3. Limit Exposure: Do not view [stalk] their social media handles nor sites they hang out ‘in case they happen’ just observe silence (virtual/physical)

4. Be Kind To Yourself & Others: Lashing at others can only bring more misery than unburdening your grief burden through positive channels including charitable work or helping someone else in need…

In conclusion, being hurt isn’t easy but neither is anything else worthwhile like building strong relationships, traveling and experiencing different cultures etc., don’t let hurts deter life’s purpose.
Let healing begin!