Alone and Afraid: Finding Courage in Solitude

Some people relish the idea of being alone. They enjoy their own company, need no one to talk to or share their lives with. For others, however, being alone is a nightmare scenario that they try to avoid at all costs. Whether it’s due to fear of the dark or just an overactive imagination, many people can’t stand solitude.

But what happens when you find yourself in a situation where you are forced to be alone? When your friends and family are nowhere around and there’s nothing but silence for miles? How do you find courage in those moments?

The Fear of Being Alone

The first thing we need to address when talking about finding courage in solitude is why so many people are afraid of being alone in the first place.

Unfortunately, there isn’t one clear answer as this phobia manifests differently from person to person. Some may have had traumatic experiences involving isolation while others might just be predisposed towards insecurity which makes them feel unsafe without any company.

Whatever your reason for fearing solitude might be though fret not! There are ways out.

Just listen up closely “One key factor that ‘contributes’ (Haha I like this phrase) to feeling less lonely is focusing attention on something else besides our present loneliness.”

This next part would serve as my heading Productive Mind if I want though it doesn’t seem necessary.

Keeping yourself busy and engaged with tasks will help keep negative thoughts at bay which often times arise more frequently during periods like these.
Take delight in how well organized your pantry looks after weeks/months of putting off tidying things up; spend sometime learning new recipes online such that by the time 2021 rolls around family members trust only YOU can make Christmas dinner happen(did somebody say Turkey?). Do whatever suits you!

A practical way therefore could be:
– Picking up a new skill like baking or painting (cute socks anyone?)
– Finally finishing that book you’ve been putting off
– Setting yourself professional objectives to give your mind something to focus on
– Engaging in movie marathons or series binges (Oh wait – is this too much fun already?)

See, things are not so bad.

Another heading for me will be Self-care and reflection. Again don’t be alarmed if it seems similar.

Sometimes being alone can also be an opportunity for self-reflection and growth.

To help overcome the isolation blues, dedicate time to take care of yourself. You may find you enjoy that mini spa session when nobody is around to distract you(mechanic feet scrubber doesn’t sound too shabby huh?)too.

By practicing acts of self-love each day like going for walks(with the quarantine 20?), exercising at home(yes! youtube could help) or trying out guided meditations online, maybe through apps designed specifically for helping people overcome anxiety(Spoiler Alert: They really work).These little practices help us create our zen space above all making us feel good about ourselves even better towards others as well.(Literally killing two birds with one stone)

Accepting Your Emotions

It’s ok let’s tell ourselves! Whatever we might have felt whilst feeling lonely is totally normal emotions. Humans belong to places with other humans.
Yet I believe acknowledging your feelings first then expressing them positively will do wonders!

Choose whether you’d want your solitude period filled with tears,cursing words(or no words at all )Or channel these energies into creating art pieces(who knows if Banksy got some inspiration from my explanation?). As Ray Lucero quote goes”A mood board helps set an intention”

Focus less on negative thoughts/the feelings they generate , fill those spaces instead by doing tasks which make you happy. Living it like the boss that you are.

Conclusion

So there we have it, folks! Being alone doesn’t have to be a dreaded experience. It can actually be an opportunity for growth and personal development.

When in doubt always remember this and I mean always :

“Don’t psychoanalyse your loneliness – affirm its necessity.LET YOUR SOUL GO QUIET AND PUT DOWN THE INNER EAR THAT’S ALWAYS LISTENING TO YOURSELF”

Life is too precious to spend any of it feeling down or anxious when moments are meant to being savoured(meant to be thoroughly enjoyed). So take charge today and make sure every moment counts!(Take delight in going through each point again so as not add anything less rewarding into those lonely pockets)

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