Parenting a toddler can be quite an adventure. You never know what they’re going to say or do, and it’s not uncommon for them to throw tantrums when things don’t go their way. However, if your 3-year-old is physically harming himself when he’s angry, you might start to worry about the safety of your child. Don’t panic; we’ve got some helpful tips on how to deal with this behavior.
Understanding Toddler Tantrums
Before we dive into ways to address self-harming behaviors in toddlers, let’s take a moment to understand these little humans a bit better.
Toddlers are basically drunk adults in tiny bodies: They have big emotions that they struggle to control and communicate effectively because their language skills aren’t fully developed yet.
This means that your toddler throwing themselves onto the ground and flailing around like a fish out of water isn’t just them being dramatic – it’s genuinely overwhelming for them.
That being said, there is a difference between typical toddler tantrums and self-harm behaviors that need addressing right away.
Recognizing Self-Harm Behaviors
Self-harm is defined as intentional injury inflicted on oneself without suicidal intent. In toddlers, this might look like hitting their head against walls or hard objects when upset, biting themselves aggressively when temperamental or even scratching themselves until they bleed out of frustration.
It’s important as parents/caregivers/teachers etc.,we keep our eyes peeled for signs of self-injury so we can react proactively before matters escalate further.
Red flags include:
- Frequent bruising or swelling in strange places
- Repeating patterns/presence of scratches,cuts/burns most especially during times associated with anger/frustration/insecurity etc.
- Being visibly agitated easily over seemingly trivial issues
- Exhibiting unusual patterns of emotional expression
Why Do Toddlers Hurt Themselves?
While self-harm behaviors in toddlers may look concerning, it’s not always an indication that something is seriously wrong. More often than not, such behavior results from overwhelming emotions plus the lack of cognitive or communication skills needed to express such feelings properly.
Below are some reasons why toddler might do harm to themselves:
- They’re frustrated with their inability to articulate what they want.
- They have difficulty communicating at age level and thus unsure how to convey strong emotions
- They are anxious about new situations/ unfamiliar places/people/scenarios
- They might also be seeking attention (positive/negative) and hurting themselves becomes an option for grabbing said attention
For a reliable method of change,it’s important we acknowledge that there may be a number different causes which affect any individual child,and as such,treatment will require careful consideration based on characteristic observations rather than prescriptive one size fits all fixes for every case around.
Now that you understand your little one’s actions better let’s explore ways through which you can help them overcome their tendency towards harming themselves:
This cannot be overemphasized enough – toddlers pick up on our emotional cues quickly, and if we start flailing about ourselves when they become upset, it will only further reinforce the idea that uncontrolled outbursts are okay.
Take deep breaths yourself step back where necessary –it doesnt make you lessIt makes you more capable-and create space between them so everyone can calm down.
Once things have settled some,reassure your child by either narrating positive affirmations,e.g “you got this,you’ll feel better soon” etc.these comments albeit rooted in empathy should not come across as overbearing,but light hearted and reassuring just the same.
Find Alternative Outlets
If your toddler often experiences these overwhelming emotions that result in self-harm, it might be time to start exploring different ways they can express their frustrations bodily.
Here are a few things to consider/try out:
- Creating an art box filled with squishy clay or playdough,bouncy balls and other materials which they can pound on without any judgement.
- Using verbal prompts such as “You seem really upset right now – why don’t we take some deep breaths together?”
- Physical activity-dancing,jumping,stretching-an outlet for pent-up energy is always helpful especially when emotions run high.
And you know what? You’re allowed to join in! Get those endorphins flowing.
Build Communication Techniques
As toddlers develop,they’re still trying to comprehend the individual nuances of communication skills so it’s important that as caregivers/parents,talking actively about all of this becomes easier by undertaking one simple strategy: identifying alternate modes of communication like pictures,drawings,motions and sounds which may better help convey thoughts/intent quickly rather than using confusing words or phrases with multiple meanings.Think outside the box!
Make sure not just only engage but demonstrate tasks carried out while relaying information,this helps reinforce proper behavior even further.Ensure that there’s consistency too – if “naughty chair” means X-the child should receive Y every time without fail,it makes them feel certain and secure,you also won’t feel frustrated endlessly repeating yourself across the genders before someone takes notice either (ha ha).
As much as toddlers try our patience,the best way forward requires remaining consistent with rewards/punishments whenever possible.In general positive reinforcement works better than negative (all hail taking turns concept!)when addressing difficult toddler behaviours.Maintain set routines,e.g meals,bath times etc.Also look into protective gear particularly where persistent physical injury results from certain behaviours e.g a helmet for the child who hits their head off walls-its appearance helps to alert caregivers particularly in social settings where it may not have otherwise been on their radar.
Never Encourage The Behavior
While it might sometimes be hard not to laugh at the sheer absurdity of some of our toddler’s antics, encouraging attention-seeking or self-harm behaviors is never a good idea. Always try your best to discourage these actions and praise positive behavior when they respond well!
Be careful always though because there’s a fine line between scolding appropriately and coming across as aggressive that you actually end up triggering more unintentional harm in future episodes.
When toddlers hurt themselves out of anger, it can be distressing for parents/caregivers/teachers etc.but please worry less about how people perceive you,and care more about helping better set the tone at home/workplaces so everyone benefits. Understanding what could cause such afflictions,taking an empathetic stance,is key moving towards finding feasible solutions.Remember that there are ways through which you can help your little one overcome this tendency – staying calm yourself,distracting them with alternative outlets,making conscious efforts-filled with empathy-towards communication skills,maintaining consistency during routines,rewards/punishments all play important roles ultimately in raising content,happy,healthy children prepared enough for whatever curveballs life throws their way-and hey,it builds excellent parenting skills on-the-go.Now go forth-you’ve got this!
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